mmmmmmm..... time to rally the troops, I think. You are not the maid!
If you are doing all the cooking AND the cleaning, what are the rest of the crew doing to share the load? In my world, the cook does not do the dishes. That's the responsibility of the "eaters."
I think you just need a break. I know a couple of Moms who actually went on strike. Took about 3 days each of getting up in the morning and going to work out, followed by lunch out with friends and a movie.... who cooked the dinner? Who cleaned the house? They didn't care. After a couple of days of mayhem, the family had a powwow and divided up the chores. Worked like a charm.
Another family I knew didn't give the kids any allowance AT ALL! They had to earn every penny by doing chores. Dishes, laundry, cleaning not only of their own rooms, but also the common areas of the house. A little extreme, perhaps, but they sure learned the value of a dollar.
You'll figure out something that works for you....
In the meantime, I have a great recipe for Thai Red Curry if you'd like to try something different!