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Old 04-11-2006, 08:56 PM   #11
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Dunno if there is anything you can say. Some people just get frazzled quicker then others. I thrive on the pressure myself, and whatever flaws may arise, I roll with the punches and make mental notes for next time.

My example was Christmas dinner. Turkey was done over an hour before everything else (and before everyone came to eat it!). The acorn squash wasn't quite done. As people arrived and brought stuff, my kitchen turned into Grand Central Station. The latter was easy enough, as I allowed those in that needed to prep stuff or drop off stuff for the dinner, and threw everyone else out. Even those with a pass to stay were only given the minimal required time. As for the squash, it was done enough to pass, but I would keep it in a bit longer. For the turkey, I just pulled it out and kept it covered until about 20 minutes before time to eat, then put it back in the oven. Was perfect.

My point? What's done is done. If you do your best, what more can you ask for? No one could have said anything to me to help. The only thing to really say to your friend would be to ask if it was really worth her stress level, and could there be alternatives to reduce the level (i.e. personal chef for food, cleaning service for housecleaning, etc.). Then again, if she's meticulous like Mrs. Big Dog is and wants everything done just perfectly, which can only be done by her, there's nothing to say but best of luck, I'll help if I can!

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Old 04-12-2006, 04:09 AM   #12
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My answer would be to have everything do ahead. I make lists of everything and leave them in a convenient drawer so I can check off without worrying about losing the list, etc. Some anxious moments are going to happen anyway, but no need to worry over it.

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Old 04-12-2006, 05:19 AM   #13
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MicheleMarie, your name alone cracks me up (I have a sister named Michelle and one named Marie). Licia and Big Dog, I'm with both of you. I guess this freind is anxiety-ridden about everything. I'm mostly flattered that she turns to me for comfort, and I know that she tries hard. She just gets upset way too easily. I've peeled pizza off the back of my oven, taken food from the floor and presented it, spent time making sure that there are no ingredients in my food (after the fact) that might upset someone. But I really don't think of these factors in advance. In fact, I like having a really true vegetarian dish at my parties. Mom taught me good nutrition, and I learned it well.
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Old 04-12-2006, 07:00 AM   #14
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Claire- You sound like you have it all together!Like Bigdog said paraphrasing here- what will be will be.As much as the food is important the enjoying the company part is as well.I love the idea of you Brunch Bunch and wish my friend's lives weren't so busy that we could do this more than once a year.I feel for your friend- anxiety is tough and probably caused by her anorexia- had a little problem last night with my anorexic daughter after the awards with the dessert reception.I know how hard it is to be around someone that anxious- it's exhausting and I give you kudos for jumping in to be her comfort zone when she needs it!!!Love and energy, Vicki

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