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Old 01-27-2016, 12:50 AM   #1
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Cooking has gone to crap, what?!

Has anyone experienced this where it doesn't matter what you make it either doesnt turn out, is taking longer than supposed to or significant other keeps complaining that your cooking is no longer good. I don't know what what we have a 1 yr old so i dont know if its cuz im sleep deprived or what but it really sucks

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Old 01-27-2016, 12:53 AM   #2
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cooking has gone to crap

Welcome to DC! I think you are definitely sleep-deprived. No worries, your cooking muse will come back. You have a lot of stress right now. If your SO complains, then let him do the cooking.
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Old 01-27-2016, 12:56 AM   #3
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Glad im not going crazy but it seems my fiance gets mad cuz he doesnt like it throws away his food then tells me that maybe he'll start buying his own dinner cuz im wasting food. He used to think i was an amazing cook but not lately
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Old 01-27-2016, 12:59 AM   #4
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Your main focus is your kid right now. If your SO is being a jerk, then he can eat cereal or peanut butter toast.
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Old 01-27-2016, 01:03 AM   #5
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Thanks dawgluver
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Old 01-27-2016, 02:06 AM   #6
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Your main focus is your kid right now. If your SO is being a jerk, then he can eat cereal or peanut butter toast.
+1! Being a new Mom is a more than full-time job. You need to adapt to your new "boss" (your young'un) and still keep your wits about you. I think that your fiance had best get used to lunchmeat sandwiches and canned soup until you get your wits back - unless he wants to take over the job of cooking.

Our "first born" was twins, but I had the wonderful help of two local grandparents (my folks) who came over at the first request. If you don't have family you can call on, perhaps there is a young (10 or 11-year-old) in your neighborhood who you can enlist as a "Mother's Helper". The 10-Y-O next to us was in Girl Scouts and working on a Child Care badge. She came over to play with the kids while I fixed simple meals. She was a Godsend! Maybe there is someone in the neighborhood who can do that for you, even if you pay them a small amount. Maybe teaching them a skill that you have that they are interested in would work out, too.

Good luck! Parenthood isn't for sissies.
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Old 01-27-2016, 04:16 AM   #7
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If and when my wife or kids complain about my food, I show them the fridge and stove top and say have fun cooking your own meals. Suddenly they shut up. ( usually they're joking and just want to see my response ( kids 18 and 20). But Im one of those people who watch them eat what I cooked. I look for facial expressions or whats left over. Thats usually how I get my feedback.

Sure, sometimes i get in a rut of things not up to par. Usually, at that point, Ill take a step back and go back to the basics. Ill cook things that are maybe simpler or that I've cooked hundreds of times.

I remember once I was asked to cook a dish Ive made dozens of times, for a family gathering. Problem was, I had a cold and a stuffed nose. When I served it, as always, I noticed the left overs and the faces. I asked my wife what the deal was, since its always such a hit. She said I put so much salt in, it was almost not edible . Because of my cold, I couldn't taste a damn thing.

Your situation, having a 1 yearly, clearly your priorities have changed ( which is a good thing). Its better that you be a great mom,than a great cook. you'll get back in to your groove in time. Just keep things simple, go back to the basics, and have a great time enjoying your 1 year old. you have more than enough time in your life to cook, and Im sure you'll bounce back.

Without getting involved, I don't see any reason for your significant other to get mad.

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Glad im not going crazy but it seems my fiance gets mad cuz he doesnt like it throws away his food then tells me that maybe he'll start buying his own dinner cuz im wasting food. He used to think i was an amazing cook but not lately
Sounds to me like the problem is elsewhere. Food is just the excuse for the tantrum.
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Old 01-27-2016, 10:20 AM   #9
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Men sometimes get a little jealous of Mom giving more of her attention to the new baby and less to him. So let him buy dinner, but for both of you

It might help to encourage him to take care of the kiddo while you make dinner. It's not easy to concentrate on both of those things at once.
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Perhaps he's using your cooking to vent.
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