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Old 06-04-2013, 03:14 AM   #941
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Hi Guys! Long time no see...I don't think of wandering back here too often. In fact, practically never. And it's so relaxing at this little "clubhouse". Especially since I brought along my nightly glass of vino. Although tea is very good too. Alix, if you'd like I can bring a couple of my favorites to share. I really like Harney Tea and have a number of them in looseleaf. I'll bring a couple of my extra tea steepers too.

Addie, glad to hear the medicine helped you feel better. As they say: Better living through chemistry.

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don't you hate the way those 'grumps' make you feel? it's not so bad if you can let it blow over quickly. i wish i was wired that way. instead, i tend to 'stew' over every little spat for way too long...
Watch yourself with holding onto the grumpies vit. Last week Himself and I had a fight. Well, truth be told, it wasn't a fight since he pretty much ignored my tirade. Stupid stuff, which is what I blow up over best. Right after I was done yelling I thought "I'd better check my blood pressure". Whoa! 238/106! Breathed deep, decided to relax, and a minute later I was back to 128/78. Decided right then and there no matter how mad you can get, it isn't worth stroking over. Himself is happier too since I'm relearning to ask nicely instead of yell.
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Old 06-04-2013, 01:04 PM   #942
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That's one thing I refuse to do, yell. I have to admit me with with hubby is a lot better that way. We have been together since Dec 1997 & we have only had one fight which included yelling. I had to fight most of my life and I'm done with it and my life has improved greatly because of it. That doesn't mean we agree on everything and that we don't get upset with each other but we talk about it and then we move past it.

Well I have to work tonight and tomorrow night then I have 3 days off. The temps outside are perfect and I'm half tempted to take off tonight. I'm sitting outside waking up watching the 3 pups enjoy lounging in the sun and I can't think of anything better then doing this all day but I know myself, I'll be in my car at 3:30 doing my drive.
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Old 06-04-2013, 01:53 PM   #943
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Good afternoon everyone. I am sort of upset with myself. I had an appointment this morning with the vascular lab and completely forgot about it. But when I started to think about it, I still have a touch of pleurisy in my left lung and would have been in a lot of pain laying there for the test. It takes about an hour. I am feeling much better today though. I just took another Vicodin. I don't want the pain to get the best of me again.

I prepared all the meats for the freezer today. I bought some country style ribs. They have almost no bones and were individually very large. Almost a pork chop. So I pack them individually. More than enough for one meal for me. Normally I would have packed two together. Using the Food Saver bags, it turned out to be very expensive. Those bags are not cheap. The next time I have to place an order, I will shop around first. I made the mistake of ordering them directly from FS. I wish they were sold in stores. Then I found a hidden roll that I could make my own bags for the Italian sausages. Just enough on the roll for two of them together. But there is so much waste to that method. Well I now have enough meat for the next six months. But I just tossed everything into the freezer. When I feel better I will get in there and neaten it all up.

I am going to take a nap. Fighting pain is hard work.
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Old 06-04-2013, 03:24 PM   #944
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That's one thing I refuse to do, yell. I have to admit me with with hubby is a lot better that way. We have been together since Dec 1997 & we have only had one fight which included yelling. I had to fight most of my life and I'm done with it and my life has improved greatly because of it. That doesn't mean we agree on everything and that we don't get upset with each other but we talk about it and then we move past it.

Well I have to work tonight and tomorrow night then I have 3 days off. The temps outside are perfect and I'm half tempted to take off tonight. I'm sitting outside waking up watching the 3 pups enjoy lounging in the sun and I can't think of anything better then doing this all day but I know myself, I'll be in my car at 3:30 doing my drive.
matey, you and the pups basking in the sun--that's a tough one to tear yourself away from, on a sun-filled day...especially to go to work....
if you have a similar set of circumstances tomorrow again, you have my permission to ditch work. then, you will have four whole days off from work!
actually, matey, i'm here to ask, how is a person who grows up in a household where fighting is the everyday 'norm' able to turn that around 180 degrees? how does she begin 'talking things through' without the shouting and yelling which was her lifelong communications model up until then?
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Old 06-04-2013, 03:50 PM   #945
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matey, you and the pups basking in the sun--that's a tough one to tear yourself away from, on a sun-filled day...especially to go to work....
if you have a similar set of circumstances tomorrow again, you have my permission to ditch work. then, you will have four whole days off from work!
actually, matey, i'm here to ask, how is a person who grows up in a household where fighting is the everyday 'norm' able to turn that around 180 degrees? how does she begin 'talking things through' without the shouting and yelling which was her lifelong communications model up until then?
I have never been one to argue and yell. I just stand there and look at the other person while they are yelling. Then I walk away. You can't argue with just yourself. When the other person calms down, then I will talk to them. Eventually they get the message. No yelling. I don't respond. The last time I yelled at someone was a resident in this building. A known troublemaker. I did something that everyone who has ever lived here wished they had the courage to do. I put her in her place once and for all. That was last year. There hasn't been one problem with her since. And now when she sees me she is so polite that it must be killing her. Not one other person here has had a problem with her since either. I got so angry with her that I almost hit her. Some of the ladies had to pull me back. I was across the table from her and when I started to lean over the table and right in her face, you saw real fear. And yes, I would do it again. But I don't recommend it. Fighting solved my problem at that moment.

When you constantly hear yelling, you shut it out. And the other person does the same thing when you are the yeller. So you are wasting your breath and energy. Your message is not being heard. The other person is just thinking, "will he/she ever shut up?"
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Old 06-04-2013, 08:20 PM   #946
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eew, elimination night on the Voice. who's watching tonight?
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Old 06-04-2013, 08:28 PM   #947
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matey, you and the pups basking in the sun--that's a tough one to tear yourself away from, on a sun-filled day...especially to go to work....
if you have a similar set of circumstances tomorrow again, you have my permission to ditch work. then, you will have four whole days off from work!
actually, matey, i'm here to ask, how is a person who grows up in a household where fighting is the everyday 'norm' able to turn that around 180 degrees? how does she begin 'talking things through' without the shouting and yelling which was her lifelong communications model up until then?
I just may leave early on Thursday morning. Maybe 3 AM so I can be up by nine and start prepping for my picnic on Saturday.

When I met my husband I knew my life wasn't going anywhere and if things didn't change I knew I wouldn't live very much longer going the way it was so I just threw up my arms and decided to allow him to guide me into a better life. He's very subdue and I was very outgoing g so I just began to follow his lead and left most decisions up to him because I just knew I found a good guy for once and I knew I didn't want to lose him.
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Old 06-04-2013, 09:24 PM   #948
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Whoo. That was a long two days. I really get tired out doing that short change. I'm enjoying the beautiful weather today and now that I've inhaled all the ribs and rice I can hold, I'm about ready for a nap.

As for tea, I'm currently very fond of a couple of David's Teas. We've been drinking a lot of Red Velvet Cake tea, and I've also taken a shine to Bravissima tea as well. Mmmmmmmmm! I got a lovely tea sampler for my birthday from my good friend.
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Old 06-04-2013, 10:03 PM   #949
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I just may leave early on Thursday morning. Maybe 3 AM so I can be up by nine and start prepping for my picnic on Saturday.

When I met my husband I knew my life wasn't going anywhere and if things didn't change I knew I wouldn't live very much longer going the way it was so I just threw up my arms and decided to allow him to guide me into a better life. He's very subdue and I was very outgoing g so I just began to follow his lead and left most decisions up to him because I just knew I found a good guy for once and I knew I didn't want to lose him.
matey, you are lucky to have found a man such as your husband. in turn,he is lucky to have someone like you, to help bring out his social side....
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Old 06-05-2013, 11:23 AM   #950
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All of this talk about fighting with your spouse got me thinking. I cannot remember the last time Hubby and I had a fight. I guess that is a good thing! when we were first married, and would have a disagreement, I would yell, and he would clam right up and walk away. Wow, that didn't work well at all! After almost 33 years, we have both changed to be more like the other, but not to that extreme. I hold my tongue (this took a lot of praying to be able to do), and he will stay and listen when I am more reasonable. When he gets upset, instead of walking away and avoiding things, he will talk about it. Now we are able to work things out much better, but like I said, we don't seem to have arguments any more.

Oh, I see that the tea kettle is on, and that there is some tea. Anyone else want some?...................
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