I don't think there's anything I would do differently. I'm a firm believer that everything happens for a reason. This comes both good and bad. We may not understand the reason for something until many years later or never. We also may not like the reason even when we know it. However, all these experiences have made me the strong person I have become. Sort of like tempering steel. Because of some of my experiences, I have done and accomplished things I never would have imagined when I was younger.
From a bad first marriage I learned to rely on myself and was able to quite nicely take care of myself and my three young children. I felt this was some accomplishment because, by the time I split from my ex, he had eroded my self esteem and confidence down to nothing. He had 10 years to work on me and nearly did a complete job.
I've been with my present husband for just over 30 years and he is the complete opposite from my first husband. He's my biggest cheerleader and says I can do anything I set my my mind to. Instead of feeling stifled as I did before,I feel nurtured and I've blossomed as a result.
Sometimes I wish I'd married my present husband first but, then, I wouldn't have the wonderful children I had with my first husband. They're awesome big people with families of their own now.
Everything in life is an adventure and we never know where the road is going to take us.
That's my story and I'm sticking to it.