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Old 08-29-2009, 01:53 PM   #1
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Manners -- table and otherwise

I've been really searching for a subject for a column I write for the local weekly, and came up with this subject. But it did make me wonder. My mom and dad made sure we knew where the flatware, glasses, china, etc went. We didn't do it every day, but we all left home knowing how to eat at a fancy-set table. Did any of you learn this at home? I'm beginning to wonder.

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Old 08-29-2009, 06:42 PM   #2
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I learned the basics at home but we never had fancy meals there. The fancy stuff I got through my home economics class in junior high.
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Old 08-29-2009, 09:10 PM   #3
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Learned it all at home and feel very comfortable in almost any dining situation. My Mom was a Girl Guide leader and everyone she taught also knows their manners. "You never know when you might be able to eat with the Queen."
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Old 08-30-2009, 06:54 AM   #4
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In the winter Mom would tell us to keep our church clothes on (meaning dresses in those ancient days of the 60s) and put aprons on us to fix a fancy dinner, set the table with the good china. We had wine or champagne glasses with maybe a drop of wine, maybe just cream soda (makes an excellent appearance of champagne) or kool-aid. Then we'd have a great breakfast (what would be called brunch now) and later a super dinner. Many years later I found myself dining with dignitaries (for lack of a better word) and was grateful for those early lessons. Mom and Dad had to learn it from scratch and made sure their daughters knew what was what before we left home.
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Old 08-30-2009, 07:16 AM   #5
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Old 08-30-2009, 01:00 PM   #6
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I've been really searching for a subject for a column I write for the local weekly, and came up with this subject. But it did make me wonder. My mom and dad made sure we knew where the flatware, glasses, china, etc went. We didn't do it every day, but we all left home knowing how to eat at a fancy-set table. Did any of you learn this at home? I'm beginning to wonder.
We were taught how to set a table.Good china..? 8 kids?..wasn't too practical
when I was growing up.But we sat down as a family at dinner.Only on special occasions will I set a fancy table.

Another thing comes to mind,alot of kids today are so used to having grease pits on every convenient corner,that knowing how to use utensils is unimportant.
Some don't even sit down at the family table.My kids have friends like that.I have friends like that it's a shame but it's true.

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Old 08-30-2009, 01:10 PM   #7
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We were taught table manners and had to use them, but we never set a fancy table at home. I've been to very few dinners where all the extra pieces were included. We always insisted our kids use proper manners at the table as well as elsewhere. I remember once my two younger sisters and I got tickled about something at the dinner table and could not stop laughing. We laughed and stopped and even catching the eye of one another sent us into terrible laughing spells. Mom and Dad made us sit on the back steps til they finished their dinner then made us come back to finish ours. It wasn't so funny anymore.
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Old 08-30-2009, 02:51 PM   #8
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My mother and my aunts taught us all how a proper place setting was to be assembled. Some to the left, some to the right, and some in front of the plate. This included butter knives (not the ones you cut stuff with), seafood forks, coffee spoons etc. That's not to imply that that was the way we ate any more often than two or three times a year, but we learned it. Table manners were a given. No TV, polite conversation (if you can't be civil, go to your room!), and excuse yourself if you wish to leave the table.
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Old 08-30-2009, 03:22 PM   #9
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We always ate together as a family. Formal manners were not part of our training as my parents were immigrants and had no knowledge of them. That's not to say we didn't conduct ourselves properly at the table. I knew the fork goes on the left and the knife on the right, and that the napkin went under the fork.

Now I know there is a lot more to it and use this as my guide:
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Old 08-30-2009, 03:55 PM   #10
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Using the fork and the knife was very important to my Swedish parents so my sisters and I were taught the basics very early in life. For the more fancy setting with many courses, my grandmother was the teacher and I was a teenager.
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