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Old 07-08-2008, 12:38 PM   #181
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Slightly, but only slightly off topic is the other question. Why aren't you married? I have been single for 25 out of the past 30 years, and unhappy for 5. The first couple of times I ignore the question, then, if it persists, I answer that I do not want to have to get a larger house. I live in 4200 feet on 2 acres.
Sometimes I think that it simply a case of misery loves company.
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Old 07-08-2008, 12:51 PM   #182
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Thanks everyone! They sure are a handful, but worth every bit of it!
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Old 07-08-2008, 12:53 PM   #183
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Good thing my tubes are tied all the baby talk (and Stine's pic!) are making me want another!
I better take them all shopping and cure myself.......
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Old 07-08-2008, 01:10 PM   #184
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Anyone have inlaws or outlaws try and guilt you into having kids or ask you when the bundles of joys were coming???? hahaha............
That is my situation. My own parents, if not understanding, are not vocal about my lack of children. They respecgt my life's choices. I firmly refuse to have kids before I have a husband. And my BF of 6 years is dragging on that. He's 40 and I'm 30 so I don't think it's going to happen this time around for me. That's okay, I don't yearn for kids, but I don't want it to be my one great regret in life (not having them).
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Old 07-08-2008, 01:21 PM   #185
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Anyone have inlaws or outlaws try and guilt you into having kids or ask you when the bundles of joys were coming???? hahaha...
Not guilt or anything, but Nick's Mother talks about marriage and children every time we visit her (about once a month). And my best friend also says it's just a matter of time. My own Mother also got a little excited when Nick and I were talking about our plans to move to Kingston and how we were planning for the long term.....

I can't blame Nick's Mother for being that way, seeing as her only daughter likes women and her other older son hasn't had a girlfriend in years and is getting into his high 30's. She loves kids and is getting the gramma itch.

Nick and I have talked about it and would like children when we are married and financially ready. Being married means we are absolutely sure we want to spend the rest of our lives together and dedicate our lives to each other and any children.

Nick is just amazing with kids, starting as an elementary teacher in late fall this year. He wants at least two. Me, I have never really had the itch before I met him - maybe I just hadn't met the right person. Now, I see children in our future. I want at least two children. Growing up as an only child as I did has its advantages, but I missed having a sibling.
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Old 07-08-2008, 01:49 PM   #186
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Being married means we are absolutely sure we want to spend the rest of our lives together and dedicate our lives to each other and any children.
Tempis Fugit! You will wake up someday and realize the Rest of Your Life has arrived and is passing in a blur. If you're willing to move together to a new city and set up housekeeping...
well.... um.....time to make that decision!!!! (my opinion only, of course.)
I wasted 12 years waiting to find out if we were compatible..... Good thing I woke up moved on and found my life mate.
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Old 07-08-2008, 02:10 PM   #187
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Unfortunately the question "why aren't you married?" rings in the ears of the single adults in my "culture" (religion--at least in the local area). My religion teaches that marriage is the most important thing you can do here on earth, but a lot of the adults take it too far. They pester poor single people who sincerely want to get married with that question, when it's simply that they can't find someone they would be happy to settle down with. People think they aren't "trying" hard enough. But hey, if they haven't found someone they aren't compatible with, there isn't much they can do about it. Although I think people are starting to realize that and be more sensitive to them.

And as far as that question goes pertaining to people who are living together and not married--I guess I'd ask the same question. Why not get married? (Of course, my religion teaches abstinence before marriage so that would be the main reason for that ).

I hope I'm not breaking taboo here by mentioning religion. I'm not trying to preach, I just couldn't really answer the question without mentioning it a little. No one here is obligated to live my the rules of my religion.
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Old 07-08-2008, 02:20 PM   #188
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2 of my kids have been living with their SO's for 6+ years - my oldest has been living with her SO for 9 years! They both say that they don't feel a need to get married unless they have children. I suspect that seeing people go through divorces their whole lives (since it is much more commonplace than when I was a kid), it makes young people a little gun-shy. There are probably a lot of different factors. Oddly, it's my kids that don't want to get married - their SOs have both said they would like to get married. I don't really understand it because they both seem to be very much in love and are completely monogamous.
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Old 07-08-2008, 03:07 PM   #189
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Tempis Fugit! You will wake up someday and realize the Rest of Your Life has arrived and is passing in a blur. If you're willing to move together to a new city and set up housekeeping...
well.... um.....time to make that decision!!!! (my opinion only, of course.)
I wasted 12 years waiting to find out if we were compatible..... Good thing I woke up moved on and found my life mate.
Grilling, we have only been together for a year, we are both sure we want to be together BUT before we get married we want to be established and comfortable in our new jobs in Ontario. SO maybe I will have an engagement by New Years! lol

12 years would be wayyyyy too long for me. If 2 years has passed without a ring, I'm asking for one! LOL
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Old 07-08-2008, 03:17 PM   #190
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If 2 years has passed without a ring, I'm asking for one!
You go, girl! :) :)
No reason the man has to do it.

The one rule for marriage happiness comes from the Wizard of Oz movie... paraphrased..
"If you can't find happiness in your own backyard, you are looking in the wrong place..."
:) Took me a while to figure that one out.

OK, back to baaabieeees! Squealing, pooping icky things! EWWW!
(Just kidding!!!)
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