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Old 06-23-2008, 12:06 AM   #61
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Funerals do have a function. We have ceremonies and gatherings for so many of life's milestones. This is just one more.
I agree, Jabbur. I think a funeral or memorial service is very important for friends and family, as a way to say goodbye. DH and I talked with son Jeff about this on his visit last week and we intend to remain here in Mexico, be cremated and scattered in a place of importance to us. But I want there to be a service of some kind for me, and I want them to play "Bennie and the Jets."
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Old 06-23-2008, 05:35 AM   #62
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while it may seem a bit macabre to plan for one's one demise it does certainly serve a function........making it easier on your heirs.........my DH's parents had to handle the affairs of several close relatives and the experience emboldened them to make it easier on us which they certainly did.....they didn't want anyone to go thru the hassles that they had.......we were very fortunate........
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Old 06-23-2008, 08:02 AM   #63
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I agree, Jabbur. I think a funeral or memorial service is very important for friends and family, as a way to say goodbye. DH and I talked with son Jeff about this on his visit last week and we intend to remain here in Mexico, be cremated and scattered in a place of importance to us. But I want there to be a service of some kind for me, and I want them to play "Bennie and the Jets."
just want to point out something about this feeling of funerals being for the living. You all are making the assumption that the deceased was a beloved, will be missed, needing the time needed to grieve with other friends and family.

This is not always the case, that the deceased was a beloved person.
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Old 06-23-2008, 09:15 AM   #64
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You're right about that, Beth,......my husband's exboss was so well hated ....there would have been a celebration had he passed away......sorry to say it but I never met a more selfish and self-aborbed person than himself and his wife.........in fact when people find out that he's being posted to their country they turn in their transfer requests or take early retirement.....his name lives on in infamy.....I dubbed him Peter the Great and it's become his moniker.....sorry it just makes me laugh that he doesn't care in the least.....I would care...knowing that people hated my guts as much as people hate his........
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Old 06-23-2008, 11:04 AM   #65
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Sounds good to me, jpm! Especially if was signed by 3 witnesses!!

In our regular will we both have directives to physicians in regards to sustainment of life.......believe me your lawyer can get as creative as you want him/her to be....ours didn't leave a rock unturned and he was reasonable........
"In our regular will...."

What most people would consider a "regular will" doesn't become operative until you are dead. So directives to physicians would be meaningless. They need to be made in a so-called "living will."
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Old 06-23-2008, 11:18 AM   #66
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They need to be made in a so-called "living will."
AND a copy of this document should be made a part of your permanent medical record with your primary care physician...
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AND a copy of this document should be made a part of your permanent medical record with your primary care physician...

As well as any health care proxies you might have.
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Funny that this topic should still be debated. It seems that There are more than DC'ers with this on their mind.

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Old 06-23-2008, 01:36 PM   #69
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As well as any health care proxies you might have.
This is another important issue - in most states, you can execute what is called a "Durable Power of Attorney for Health Care." This document states who can make important medical care decisions for you if you are incapacitated. Here is more information: Health Care Power of Attorney
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I may be a bit cavalier about the whole thing. All the major things are done to make sure my wife is taken care of (life insurance, that sort of thing). After that.... I really don't care if they dump me in the woods, off the bridge, *in* a dump, etc.

Of course... my wife knows all of this. Um...maybe that wasn't such a good idea....



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