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Old 10-11-2013, 01:33 AM   #111
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Good job today, Cat, to show those students that you can be more grown-up about this than they can. Hope they leave you alone now if they don't want to be nice to you. They don't know what they are missing out on.




This reminded me of my dear Mom. When I got mad at her I'd say "you don't love me anymore". (Put in a pouting lip here) Her reply was "I love you. I'll always love you. But right now I don't have to like you." I would then try really hard to make sure my Mom liked me too.
Thank you! I do know Mamma and Papa are not required to love of me. One day I shall deserve this wonderful love they have for me.

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Old 10-11-2013, 01:59 AM   #112
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But love you they do! We can all tell your Mamma is very proud of you from her posts. You certainly are earning their love and respect.

There is an expression we use in parts of the U.S. that goes "don't sell yourself short". I looked around the internet for a better definition than I could have worded. Here's what it means:

to underestimate someone or something; to fail to see the good qualities of someone or something.
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Old 10-11-2013, 04:04 AM   #113
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When my kids would yell, "I hate you", I would tell them that it was all right to hate me. That is what they were supposed to do. They were the child, I was the mother. It meant I was doing my job. Drove them crazy.

What kid hasn't said I hate you to their parent. I don't understand parents who think they should be popular with their kids all the time and feel hurt when they hear those words.
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Old 10-11-2013, 07:38 AM   #114
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This reminded me of my dear Mom. When I got mad at her I'd say "you don't love me anymore". (Put in a pouting lip here) Her reply was "I love you. I'll always love you. But right now I don't have to like you." I would then try really hard to make sure my Mom liked me too.
My mom did the same, although she would say, "I love you, but I don't love what you're doing right now."

Cat, your parents love you because you're a sweet, thoughtful young woman with a wicked sense of humor That's why we love you, too. You deserve it.
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Old 10-11-2013, 11:35 AM   #115
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When my kids would yell, "I hate you", I would tell them that it was all right to hate me. That is what they were supposed to do. They were the child, I was the mother. It meant I was doing my job. Drove them crazy.

What kid hasn't said I hate you to their parent. I don't understand parents who think they should be popular with their kids all the time and feel hurt when they hear those words.
Count me as one of those kids who has never said I hate you to my parent. I never would. Words hurt and I try to be careful with mine. My Mom taught me that.

I do agree with you mostly Addie, parents are meant to be parents as their kids already have friends and don't need you to be their buddy. But I think EVERY parent feels hurt when they hear harsh words from their kid. It doesn't mean you won't do your job, but it still hurts.

CatPat, there is a big difference between "love" and "like". The kind of love your parents have for you is unconditional. It is wondrous and awe inspiring because you never have to do ANYTHING to deserve it. That is a bit humbling, but you just have to accept that it IS. You never have to deserve it. "Liking" is different. You do need to work to have someone LIKE you. I can LOVE my kids but not LIKE them very much when they are being naughty or rude. Parents love their kids no matter what they do.
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