Fisher's Mom
Executive Chef
Amber, I am so sorry to hear of all the awful things that are happening in your life right now. First, I'm so sorry about the loss of your dog. Second, even if your hubby has been/is a jerk, he's the person you loved enough to marry so it's a huge loss. Most of us plan when we marry to spend the rest of our lives with our spouse and shape our lives around that. When one suddenly leaves, it's devastating and forces us to rethink our whole lives. Plus, there's often a deep feeling of failure. I know your heart is broken and I really feel for you. Cry when you need to and lean on your friends for support. (This is a great place to go for support.)I recalled this venting thread and I need to! I'm going to sound like a country and western song here, but we put our dog to sleep on May 12 because of cancer, and my husband (age 37) wants a divorce because he is now with a 20 year old girl. He just moved out today to an apartment with her. It's been a lovely several months for me. We are not even divorced, so imagine my mind set right now and for the past several months. I dont know how I've survived. I dont work, he does, and he wont pay for anything. What a guy huh?
My sister is here visiting me for moral support, and I'll get strong again and figure out what to do about it all. Thanks for listening.
The advice about a lawyer is good advice to help you get through the immediate financial restructuring. Also, I don't know anything about your educational or work background but you may need some training or classes to help with re-entering the workforce. Your state will probably have some sort of a centralized job database and often they offer training and classes as part of their services. Even though you're feeling numb right now, going through the steps to going to work might help you get through this one day at a time.
Don't feel ashamed or embarrassed about posting here - you are part of this community and we take care of each other. So keep us up on how things are going.
Terry