I am very upset at a certain person, who shall remain nameless (but is my sister).
Pretty much anything my sister has ever done has been to benefit herself. I am absolutely not exaggerating when I say that over 50% of what comes out of her mouth is a lie (probably closer to 75%, but I'm trying to give her the benefit of the doubt). She isn't stupid (huge reader, great at all types of puzzles, etc.), but years of meth and cocaine use, as well as hard liquor and who knows what else haven't helped any. I only tell you this to show you a little about what we have had to deal with. She can be very nice, and very generous, but you have to constantly guard against getting stabbed in the back.
Anyway, as most of you know, my dad died in November and we had his funeral in December. Since he had bought two plots (one with my mom, in CA, and one in his family plot, in MO) we had his ashes divided, with the plan to go back to Missouri in May or June, have a little family reunion, and bury the remaining ashes. Unfortunately, finances haven't allowed us to do it yet.
My vent is that my sister suddenly decided that she is going to take his ashes back to Missouri herself, and she didn't ask any of us how we felt about it, or even let any of us know her plans until she had to. She had to tell her son because she wants him to go with her so that he can drive the rental car when they get there (she doesn't drive). My daughter (who has my dad's ashes) only found out yesterday, and my sister planned to leave either today or tomorrow. We are pretty sure she will tell the cousins in MO all kinds of stories about why we didn't come (my nephew didn't even know that she hadn't told us--he thought we knew but had declined), but that's not the thing that really bothers us. We know that it has to be done, but it was not her decision to make on her own. It should have been a family decision. It's not as if his ashes were going to go anywhere. It could have waited until a better time.
Thank you for letting me rant and rave and vent. I'm not looking for advice--the ashes will be turned over to her and she can go do it, and I will continue to pray for her every day as I always do, but I think this is really the last straw for my daughter and me. Sorry this is so long. I had actually written tons more, but most of that didn't need to be said. I just needed to write it, then I deleted it.