Not to hijack the thread or take away from what you are going thru, but we know first hand about people not taking responsibility for what they do. In 05 my wife was driving home in her pickup truck from a long day at work (she is a professional gardener, it is her own business).
Anyway, we had just spent $2,200 on the truck so it would be absolutely reliable and also be able to handle heavy loads. I had also just finished a custom rack in the back so she could have all her tools locked under it and all her supplies (plants, mulch, etc) on top.
And what happens? Some guy slams into her while she is stopped at a light and totals the pickup. Luckily she was unharmed (good thing I insist on seat belt usage and got her in the habit), but being thoughtful and concerned she got out to ask the other guy if he was OK instead of grabbing his license plate number first. He tells her he is OK, has no insurance, then takes off!
Because she did not get his license plate, the insurance company wouldn't cover it, so it was a total loss for us: