Marge; Prayers are being said every night for both you and John. I know this is so very hard for you, for John, and for the family. I can do little but offer my prayers and freindship.
Know this: whatever happens, the Lord will do what is correct, and in His time. We may not always understand why things happen, just that they happen for our growth and for our good. Mortality is such a tenuos and fragile thing, and is short lived for all of us. There will come a day when our frailties will be no more, and we well be together, able to appreciate and enjoy our perfected bodies.
In the meantime, we need to trust in Him. We need to learn everyday, take something of value from the experience, even if it's a bitter lesson. I know that your son has improved much from when this thread started, but still has a long race to run, with many hurtles before him. I will rejoice when that race is over, and he can again walk and catch his breath. You will be at his side on that day, and will be offering comfort along the way.
Marge, you are a loving mother, and a tender soul. We love you for that.
Seeeeeeya; Goodweed of the North