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Old 03-09-2008, 04:25 PM   #21
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Originally Posted by kitchenelf View Post
GEEZ - I'll do better next time! ...
Oops! I didn't think you would look in here!

If I ever get the chance to cook for you, I am sure I will be apologizing all over the place! I know you've heard this a lot, but you are a great cook!


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Old 03-09-2008, 04:34 PM   #22
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...People just don't realize how easy it is to cook from scratch...
This is so true. In fact, someone gave me a box of Hamburger Helper one time, and the number of steps it required were ridiculous. I thought, it is easier to cook from scratch (for the most part) and a whole lot healthier and tastier! And some of the best tasting things are the easiest. It doesn't come much easier than a home made pecan pie, but people assume it is hard.


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Old 03-09-2008, 04:41 PM   #23
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hmmm, i think i might be a snob, considering how amazed i am at all the processed packaged stuff overflowing some people's pantries. my pantry is pretty compact, but my fridge/freezer is overflowing with fruit, veggies, garlic, meats... but then again, my friends who *don't* like to cook never have people over at their houses. they tend to suggest meeting up at a restaurant instead. my friends that DO like to cook though, are all spectacular at it, so there's a constantly moving feast from one house to the other on the weekends.

with this group of people, themed potlucks are ALWAYS a super idea, but with novices, it can be intimidating (i.e., "oh, no, my enchiladas are side by side with his tostones!!"). why not a group cooking party? have everyone bring the raw ingredients and help prep together, or at least chat over cocktails in the kitchen while you're doing it all. sort of like teaching/inspiring without the lecture part.
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Old 03-10-2008, 04:42 AM   #24
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I'm going over to a friend's place for a BBQ next Sunday. I'll see how snobby I am then!! Last time I went to a BBQ, it was charcoal. Haven't even worked out what meat I am taking. I have been dancing between preparing something (which would make me look snobby!) and just rocking up with some sausages. I'm going to take a snobby salad - baby bocconcini, grape tomatoes, red onion, Kalatata olives with a balsamic vinegar dressing. Doesn't sound snobby here but it will be to my friends who are really not foodies by any stretch of the imagination.
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Old 03-10-2008, 08:08 AM   #25
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I just go for the fellowship. It ccan't be that bad, and who hasn't opened up a jar of spaghetti sauce on occasion? I love my friends and appreciate any hospitality that they offer.
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Old 03-10-2008, 08:27 AM   #26
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It is a latest fashion India that educated women always like to show that they can't cook (or they really can't).

I really feel snob becuase I can prepare many traditional dishes, that are following the path to extinction
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Old 03-10-2008, 08:27 AM   #27
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Growing up in an ethnically Italian food was alway important and always homemade. This type of home cooking was taken for granted.

In college exploring the vast types of ethnic foods with friends and cooking for eachother expanded my horizons of food beyond my traditional family background to asian latino and southern tastes.

I am not a great cook but I enjoy cooking and experimenting with new foods. I also enjoy sharing food. It is important to me.

But it is not imortant to everyone. Cooking should be about joy not obligation. If a friend or family member who hates cooking invites me over I would rather they order out or open a jar than spend time doing something they hate.

My favorite Aunt is a horrible cook. She just hates doing it. When I visit (they live on the beach so it is often) I either just enjoy the company and tolerate the food or man the grill and share my enjoyment of cooking with them.
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Old 03-10-2008, 08:31 AM   #28
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It's snobbery if you look down your nose at someone who can't do something you can do. But if you are an accomplished cook, and your freinds aren't, and they invite you to dinner to "dine" on a Kraft Spaghetti kit supper, and you eat it, enjoying the company and hospitality, then you are not a snob. Knowing you can cook better than another isn't by itself snobbery. It's a fact of life. But throwing it in someone's face that their food skills are less than yours, then you cross the line into snobbery.

Should I try to make my food as good as I can, every time i prepare it, yes. That's the standard I set for myself. Should I try to make it the best I can for others when I go to a pot luck or to a relatives home for a holiday meal, again, the answer is a resounding yes, as long as I'm doing it to give my best to them, not to show off. And they will know the difference, usually.

The problem with being a very good cook is that others tend to try to impress you with their own skills, whether they have them or not. No one wants to feel that they are less than someone else, and often times let their own pride get in the way of something that could have simply been a good meal shared by everyone. If that is the case, then you are not being a snob. It is the other person's insecurity that is causing them to feel you are a snob.

I have been called a music snob, and a food snob by people. I can't help the music I like, and I don't force it on others. It's what I play in my home or car for my enjoyment. I give the same freedom to others. So am I really a music snob? I don't think so. And it's the same with food. I make far better turkeys than does my older sister. So for thanksgiving, I cook the turkey and let her make the stuffing, telling her that she makes better stuffing than I do (not true, but it makes her feel good). She also makes lime/pineapple/cream cheese salad that is wonderful. I give her full marks for that. Again, it allows her to shine a bit.

So, there are ways to help those who aren't so great around the kitchen shine. For instance, go over to your freinds house exclaiming that you just learned a new recipe for, say, a fruit smoothie, or some other thing that you almost can't mess up. Teach them how to make it. Adn when the next meal comes along, request it from them. Do this with several dishes and suddenly, the "I can't cook" crowd becomes the "I make the best smoothies in the neighborhood" crowd.

Cooking is something that is learned over time, and usually with the help of others. Be the mentor/freind and help your freinds who want to learn. For those that don't want to learn, well, order take-out from your local chinese restaurant.

Knowing how to do something well doesn't make you a snob. Tooting your own horn does.

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Old 03-10-2008, 09:08 AM   #29
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As Goodweed stated go and enjoy company and not judge the food. Everyone has their own standards and I also have high standards when I prepare the food at my place. I don't judge others however and go with the flow or eat little bites and politely turn down things I don't like.

The thing that does drive me crazy are people who invite but don't put in any effort. There are many people like that who just invite to return a favor (perhaps they came to your place several times). They put together some ill perpared thing and feed you. I still try to be polite and next time I go there I learn from my previous experience and feed my kids and family before we go.
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Old 03-10-2008, 09:24 AM   #30
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I dont think I'm a food snob especially if they are really trying. If they want advice I'm happy to give it to them. What I really dislike is someone who really can't cook or grill and yet think they are the greatests cooks in the world so hard to watch and keep my mouth shut as they don't think you might know a better way.
Just last weekend a friend flew in from California to spend 3 days learning Northern New Mexican ( and to visit with DH) he was totally into it. I don't use recipes so I taught him how each dish tasted from beginning to end and how how to flavor as we go to get it just right. He learned how to make Carne Adovada, Posole, Red and Green Chili, Beans, Tostadas, Burritos, Enchiladas and Sopaipillas. I also explained all the variations you can make with each dish. He wants to come back this summer to learn more. Made me feel really good someone really wanted to learn and actually soaked it all in.

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