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Old 06-01-2009, 10:36 PM   #41
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Prayers coming your way in the hope your friend has wonderful support and care by the nursing staff at the hospital and in the future if required. Does the hospital have a counsellor where concerns can be raised by family and friends so that all medical routines can be explained that way noone feels discouraged with the hospitals efforts. It can be tough when someone is observing medical staff wizzing by but due to time constraint's unable to explain each step or procedure to worried onlooking family and friends as the patient is the main concern at that time. My field of work at this time is as an Enrolled nurse at a war Veteran's Home where I look after the unit where our dementia diagnosed patient's reside. I can assure you it's a very challenging role and one requiring much patience and dedication and I myself love it because each day is a new day and brings great rewards when I can make a patient's day that much better for being there for them and their needs, it's so much more than just medicating. Trust me you can't help but get attached to each one and insantly become part of your own family because you think about them all the time and believe me when I say fondly remembered when they leave this earth. I have no doubt your friend Wallie will always have good care because they will be loved by you and everyone who will care for Wallie take care lot's of hug's OOOO
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Old 06-01-2009, 10:49 PM   #42
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rose, i don't know if they do or not, will check on it tomorrow. her doctor has seen the daughter only once. would like to think he has seen wallie many times when daughter not there.her daughter went up this afternoon. could not stay long , they are trying to keep her sedated so she can get some rest, still intubated . i am just so down tonight. her daughter said wallie looked so sad, and can't talk. i am assuming that is because of tubes. thanks for the advice about counselor.
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Old 06-01-2009, 10:59 PM   #43
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Poor Wallie - most hospitals have a patient advocate/omsbudsman on staff, but with all the privacy laws, it is unlikely that anyone would talk to you. Maybe the daughter? I know you have indicated that your feelings toward her are not that positive. Maybe try to make friends with one of the nurses? An aide? You might get someone to lisen to your concerns.
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Old 06-02-2009, 07:52 PM   #44
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i spoke to her daughter about then minutes ago. she is still the same and it is not a good thing. they can't get her blood pressure up........three days ago they were trying to get in down.

i am getting scared that she will not make it.
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Old 06-02-2009, 09:21 PM   #45
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i spoke to her daughter about then minutes ago. she is still the same and it is not a good thing. they can't get her blood pressure up........three days ago they were trying to get in down.

i am getting scared that she will not make it.
Babetoo - if I were near you I would wrap my arms around you!! You have to put some trust here...trust that things will turn out the way they should. I hope that doesn't sound harsh. She has no quality of life right now, she's going through a lot of very difficult things and may not be able to pull out of this. You wouldn't want her to suffer this way, I just know you wouldn't. You must dig deep and find a calm place within yourself and ask if you truly want her to go on like this. Let me tell you a very personal story. I was sitting at the end of my mother's bed on the very last evening she was alive. I was distraught and beside myself...looking from her to the woman in the bed beside her. I was broken and simply asked - So, we live our lives and this is how it ends...we live ALL our lives and it simply ends like this...it ends with "us" in some place where no one can reach us and we can't reach anyone near us...we can't acknowledge...we can't reach out...we just end...is this how it really ends? Well, let me tell you that I got an answer. I felt this presence in the room and it started at the doorway and I felt it go right through me and for lack of a better term, I felt it "hit" the wall on the other side of me. I felt it completely fill the room. When it did a HUGE voice said "No, this is the beginning." It was so loud it filled every nook and cranny in my brain and at that moment a nurse walked in. I asked her if she heard that...she said heard what? I said that voice. She simply said she heard no voice. Well, I did. This is not the end for your friend, if this is even the end...when it happens, just remember, it's the beginning.
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Old 06-02-2009, 09:29 PM   #46
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Hey babetoo don't be scared just be with your friend whenever you can. The body is a miraculous machine and vital signs fluctuate in recovery the medical staff will know what to do. Don't be afraid to ask a registered nurse of your concern's. All health professionals are trained to support worried loved ones and provide truthful health updates. Anxiety and worry after all will only cause health issues for you and other's who care for Wallie and I'm sure your beautiful friend would never want this for you. Chin up and smile all my thought's prayers are coming your way.
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Old 06-02-2009, 11:02 PM   #47
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I know how you love her and I also know you don't want her to suffer..So know that what HIS will is will be what is best for her..She is loved and she knows it in her heart..so just remember sweetie, HIS will be done...I pray she has peace and comfort and does not suffer.
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Babe, I know that you are not yet ready to say goodbye to Wallie. I am so touched by the personal and hopeful experiences that have been shared here, and I believe that we are all so fortunate to be a part of this community. I continue to share your expectation that she will pull out of this. I hope it is soon.
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Babetoo - if I were near you I would wrap my arms around you!! You have to put some trust here...trust that things will turn out the way they should. I hope that doesn't sound harsh. She has no quality of life right now, she's going through a lot of very difficult things and may not be able to pull out of this. You wouldn't want her to suffer this way, I just know you wouldn't. You must dig deep and find a calm place within yourself and ask if you truly want her to go on like this. Let me tell you a very personal story. I was sitting at the end of my mother's bed on the very last evening she was alive. I was distraught and beside myself...looking from her to the woman in the bed beside her. I was broken and simply asked - So, we live our lives and this is how it ends...we live ALL our lives and it simply ends like this...it ends with "us" in some place where no one can reach us and we can't reach anyone near us...we can't acknowledge...we can't reach out...we just end...is this how it really ends? Well, let me tell you that I got an answer. I felt this presence in the room and it started at the doorway and I felt it go right through me and for lack of a better term, I felt it "hit" the wall on the other side of me. I felt it completely fill the room. When it did a HUGE voice said "No, this is the beginning." It was so loud it filled every nook and cranny in my brain and at that moment a nurse walked in. I asked her if she heard that...she said heard what? I said that voice. She simply said she heard no voice. Well, I did. This is not the end for your friend, if this is even the end...when it happens, just remember, it's the beginning.
powerful, Elf... I have heard that voice too, Babe, so I know from experience it is so. Please try to relax and let the all encompassing power we can never understand surround you.

Sending you love and peace.
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Old 06-03-2009, 02:12 PM   #50
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wallie is the same as yesterday. that is not good. this is second time to be intubated.
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