Originally Posted by jpmcgrew
WOW! I would never let someone change my plans especially just guessing what they might do. And I would for sure not settle for a lesser life and compromise that much for anyone unless I was absolutely sure they may be a problem. Not only that but if someone may be a problem moving to another part of town will not change a thing they will find you anyway if they want to make problems for you. So if he has not harassed you the past two years I would not worry so much. Plus I have a Beretta 92 FS loaded and three good watch dogs so I know I will never have a problem with a psycho or a bear which came in my yard today but was just passing by but if he tried to get into the house? Well?
Here, here! A voice of reason. You're letting your imaginings and emotions rule you, instead of visa versa.
Your making him BIGGER
than the positives in your life; that is, your past, instead of your present & future.
If he hasn't bothered you, what makes you think that will change?
Take precautions; locks on doors & windows, always let someone know where you'll be, and notify your new landlord or other apartment dwellers of any anticipated problems, and get on with your (Nick & you) lives.
Would you let a stranger or loved one ruin your plans?
If the answer is yes, so be it - move, but not based on emotion. Use your head, or just get deeper into a hellish situation. Your landlord is under no obligation to get you
"off the hook". This is his business, you may have cost him a month's rent.
This isn't even Nick's decision, but it is yours.
Originally Posted by Adillo303
Saph - In your first post, you sais that you both knew that this was a possibility. I assume that you discussed "what if's" at that time. Other than the 50/50 becoming 100%, what has changed your/his "what if's".
You are not in control at the moment. When you know about the lease, you are again in control of YOUR decisions.
I disagree, Adillo. She is, or should be in control. It is she, if she chooses
not to be, and gives up that power to someone, anyone else, that will have to live with other's decisions. You can choose to make mountains out of molehills or not. But we, here, don't really know if they are imagined or real mountains. Only she has ability to decide that.
Bite the bullet, make the decision, and deal with it.
Stay & take precautions, and live your life true to yourself. Or,
Move, possibly paying for the initial mistake with money, time spent travelling, possibly more expensive & LESS SECURE
Whatever the choice, someone else here said....
EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON!
Whatever you decide, Good Luck.