I was a sailor for ten years and worked with many kinds of people, mostly men. I have heard everything, or just about everything there is to hear. I had one co-worker, a woman, actively try to get me to swear (curse) as she knew I choose not to. I gave that up about thirty years ago. It just didn't work with either my religeous beliefs or my nature (though before that I used the same language as any other sailor). I started swearing and using coarse language in about the 6th grade. Learned some pretty nasty stuff at a Catholic school my mother sent me to. True story!
But sadly, my innocence was lost a very long time ago and I am insensitive to the things that cause most to blush. I liked it better when I didn't know as much about the world and people as I do now. Of coarse, that knowledge allows me to create very evil bad-guys for my fantasy novels. Everything is truly a two-edged sword.
And as for toning anything back, I don't. What you read is who I am, flaws and all. I don't have the knack of being someone that isn't truly me. And during some periods of my life, I found myself admiring people who could do wrong things, as my conscience kept me from doing them. And those who did some of those things seemed to have so much more control over their lives than did I. In time though, I learned that violence, arrogance, and crudity never really helped anyone. And the respect I've received for sticking to my values is worth every effort expended.
And yet, I still make regular mistakes, and have to pick myself up, dust myself off, and try to learn from them. I understand the purpose of life, and mortality, and challenges. And I understand the sanctuary this site provides for some truly worthwhile people. Some of you are far better than I am at some things, while I am better at others. That's just the way it is.
I only ask that all of you, don't change. Be who you are, on this site, and with all of your freinds, family, and the people you deal with. There is nothing more important than personal integrity and honest, except the love of you family.
I know, I know. I'm on the soap-box again. I just can't help it. I'm a peacemaker by nature, and when I witness the comraderie on this site, I can't help but be impressed. If we could only affect a similar change throughout the world, and in all people, that would be something spectacular. I wish it were possible.
If we treat all people as well as we treat each other here, with respect and dignity, then we are making the world just a bit better place to live in.
Oh, and just for the record, I haven't been a real he-man-woman-hater since I was a small boy and all girls had cooties.
It didn't take too many years for me to start admiring and even desiring a close freind who was definitely female. Wh the power of young women over young men.
Seeeeeeya; Goodweed of the North