I haven't seen ungratefulness like this in a long time (and kids are naturally exempt). Seems like a couple moved here and the guy works for my husband. I took his wife everywhere and treated her to lunch, showed her shops, grocery stores, salons, etc, emailed her a list of things to bring, the whole welcome wagon shebang. Normally the company does that but it's a pretty hurried affair. She seemed to have had a good impression and had to go home and pack up a shipment and the dog. Well several weeks go by and my DH and I are in London and we run into her hubby. "Oh, when is your wife coming to K.? Oh, she's been in K. for 2 weeks but she's not a happy camper as she's had scarring complications. Feeling for her and knowing that she had been alone in a new country I asked if she would like to attend our monthly women's coffee (this is where you meet with everyone and learn of upcoming events, new places to go, etc......Oh, please do she'd really like that and it might be good for her to get out.......Ok, so I arranged for her to go, privately asked several to make sure that she wasn't left standing by herself, introduced her to all etc., one lady gave her the names & numbers of 2 people from her own home country who speak English as well as their own language. I also gave her a brand new book about K. that was fascinating and an easy read but did tell her that I had people standing in line to read it and could I have it back soon. After the coffee I asked her how she liked the coffee and the people and she informs "Well, I really don't care for coffees". absolutely no thanks whatsoever.....I was flabbergasted. She and her hubby were leaving a few days later to go back to her home country for a short visit. Imagine my shock and surprise when 6 weeks later at a going away for another couple I see her! I asked her when she got back in and she informs me that they NEVER left due to the snow!!! Now I was outraged!!! Here she never had left, no phone calls, and no book. My DH had to buy another one for me because I was giving it as a gift and the friend was leaving soon and I still hadn't gotten my other copy back......I just assumed that something related to her surgery had come up.......seething I asked her if she had talked to her 2 countrymen.......well, I get this disgusted " they were going to meet but one of them had something come up at the last minute........" Well, then did you call them back to reschedule?" I get this stupid cow look, "Well, no, I didn't" So have you met anyone in the last 6 weeks? "No" and I asked her what she did to pass the time and she replied that she quilted and took care of her dog. To make sure that she wasn't depressed or anything I asked her if she was happy with that. And she said "yes". Then I bowed out of this movie........oh, I forgot to add that after 6 weeks I finally got the book back and was informed that she never had read it----too busy......sorry to post a long vent but some people never cease to amaze me at their lack of interpersonal skills......and it's not cultural as they have been expats all their lives and she's very well educated........ok, rant's over!!!