Crewsk, I couldn't stop thinking about your post and wanted to tell you something. A few years ago my son had a job he didn't like at all. The pay was good enough that he was afraid to take the risk of trying for another job. He called one day to say his company had downsized and he was out of a job, but with a good severance package. I said to him "so, what is your problem? you hated the job, some of the people weren't nice at all and you wanted to look elsewhere, so now you have the opportunity, but with pay." He told me he hadn't looked at it that way. He got right to work as though it was a job - to find a job - In a few weeks, long before the severance package had been depleted, he had found a much better job with a much better company with much better pay - and now they are paying for him to get his Master's degree. I know that you believe also that as one door closes, another, usually better, opens. I'm certainly hope that we hear that something great has opened up for your dh very soon. In the meantime, enjoy the holidays with your family.