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Old 10-16-2008, 07:50 PM   #3641
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Once in a while DH picks on me and nags me because of something at work. I know it's not me because what he is b####ing about is nothing until I get him to tell me whats going on. I on the other hand will talk about whats bugging me and maybe go into a crying jag. I unload on him but it's all about what is upsetting me I do not try to pick a fight thats ridiculous
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Old 10-16-2008, 08:05 PM   #3642
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Oh, I don't agree with doing that either. When I get stupid with James, it is usually over something he did, but I blow it up into unreasonable proportions.

However, sometimes I do get upset, and he thinks I am mad at him. I'll tell him, "I'm not mad at you! I'm mad at myself and you just got in the way!" (of my yelling or venting, that is).

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I just need to sound off - I'm so fed up with being moaned at, shouted at and treated though things going wrong in our house. Today, someone really annoyed DW at work and I got the brunt of her reaction down the phone whilst I was trying to cook dinner for the boys. She was being so mad, angry and cross and I got it. She just seems to being ratty everyday and if I say anything - I get it in spades.
It's the stress from all a working mom has to do. You're already a big help by cooking dinner for the kids. Let her have a peaceful moment when she gets home. Maybe that'll calm her down.
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Old 10-17-2008, 09:17 AM   #3644
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Stress is a hard thing to deal with at times - that's for sure. I suppose I didn't love my husband enough because I wouldn't put up with him taking his frustrations out on me any longer, I couldn't listen to anymore. I have heard the saying that we hurt the ones most that we love the most, but I just feel a little differently about that. I will not get into any arguments again with anyone, my physical being and peace of mind, and my childrens, are far more important than to be the one that gets the brunt of the frustration and stress. Just my opinion. :-)
As for a camera being set up on your desk and monitor all day at work - I suppose this will be a solid record of you doing your work as it should be done - and the boss' mother will have to account for the bills and such not being at your desk on the days they should be - and her messing up the set schedule of things that have always been. Maybe once it's known that you are doing your work and she's messing things up - the camera will eventually disappear. :-)
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Old 10-17-2008, 09:45 AM   #3645
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I think that the "boss-son" is a weenie and I really mean it..........to let your mother run the show........gads, how is that going to work on all levels................
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Old 10-17-2008, 02:39 PM   #3646
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I just need to sound off - I'm so fed up with being moaned at, shouted at and treated though things going wrong in our house. Today, someone really annoyed DW at work and I got the brunt of her reaction down the phone whilst I was trying to cook dinner for the boys. She was being so mad, angry and cross and I got it. She just seems to being ratty everyday and if I say anything - I get it in spades.
I'm sorry your wife is having a stressful time at work and you are the way she blows off steam. But I think PDSwife has it right - it's because she is absolutely secure in your love and commitment to her so it's safe to vent on you. Quite a compliment, if you think about it, but not easy to be the recipient of. If it doesn't happen too often, I would suggest you just ignore it and vent here a little yourself. (That's what friends are for!) If it becomes a regular pattern of behavior, it's time to talk and/or maybe seek a little counselling so she can get some tools for handling her occasional stress in a different way that doesn't involve dumping it on you. But for what it's worth, I think you're a lovely husband and a prince for trying to sort this out rather than re-acting in a not-so-good way!
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I understand, but, really don't like being the brunt of what hapens at work. I am trying my best to deal with it, because, I do it too. I think a lot of folks do.

DW is a paralegal, that environment goes from happy to high stress in a heartbeat. I am a self employed computer consultant, and therefore, at fault for all computer failures.

Our best hope would be if we could form an alliance between ourselves to shut out the work world at home. We are working at it.

It's hard enough that we, or any other couple, do not always agree at home.
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Another subject, not necessarily a vent, but it would be better to get it said and go on.

I get up early and usually make lunch for DW, and pack a breakfast and lunch for me. I worked all weekend, 12 hour days, that was great, with the current economy, to get that many hours is blessing. I did not get to shop pr make bread. I figgured I's be OK, I had some lunchmeat from last week and I got milk and OJ, which I pack for B'Fast.

I got up and found the bread had gone bad. No lunch for me, no point in packing just B'Fast. DW gets soup, home made and frozen and fresh made fruited Yogurt. She's OK.

Went to catch the train. Heard an announcement that it would be 20 minutes late. After it was 30 minutes late, a bus showed up and took us to the next station down the line. I do not nkow what that did, except put us outside on a cold (30 degree) windy platfomr. Our regular train finally showed up and took us to the city. The conductot told us that a Northbound train had hit a car and that stopped the trains for an hour. Why the bus, who knows.

Well a little varitey for a Monday.
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boy, Adillo, I would be venting after a day like yours!! I hate to be held up for anything........
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Old 10-20-2008, 11:08 AM   #3650
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Okay, so I have been very very sick with some kind of virus. Not sleeping, coughing when I do lay down, constant battle. of course drinking water and going to bathroom like I am dried up. don't know what all this is about? Anyway, HAVE to take brother to doctor visit. He doesn't want to pass it up. No matter what. Not only do I take him, I HAVE to wear a scarf around my mouth. He said do it in Japan all the time. He doesn't want to get it and doesn't want me to give it to someone else? I got it from someone didn't I? If they were wearing scarf or not I don't know if it would have helped. I have to go to the store for him and the bank. Can you believe what I day I will have? It will wear me out just explaining to people about the get up. Probably think Halloween. You think he would do all this for me? I got feelings too you know. I am praying he doesn't get it. Been sick over week. My work is never going to get caught up. Wonder where I got it? Hope you all stay healthy. OH, chicken soup doesn't help.
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