Sorry to read about the sewage problem Roadfix. I have had a basement flooded from a sewer backup and it was no fun.
And a remark like that would let them see my back as I walked out the door with a very big go to!!!!! What a rude horrid thing to say.I think the worst one I ever heard was when I lost my baby at five months of pregnancy, "It's probably for the best."
kadesma said:And a remark like that would let them see my back as I walked out the door with a very big go to!!!!! What a rude horrid thing to say.
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Actually, I "let loose" on the person. I realize that she actually meant to be kind. She was thinking the baby would have been deformed and that maybe that would make me less sad, that I lost him.And a remark like that would let them see my back as I walked out the door with a very big go to!!!!! What a rude horrid thing to say.
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taxlady said:I think the worst one I ever heard was when I lost my baby at five months of pregnancy, "It's probably for the best."
Oh, I understand about how sometimes awful things turn out to have decent consequences. I might not be married to my wonderful Stirling if I hadn't had that still birth. We had been friends for 8 years. He went out of his way to look me up, when he heard about the still birth (he was a friend of my ex). He figured I could use the support of another friend. That led to us getting togetherThat is a rough thing to say to someone in that situation. My mother had a 6 month miscarriage before me; I was supposed to be the youngest, my parents only wanted two. They tried again in the thought of just two. I was born; three years later my little brother was born. I can't say much for myself but I don't know what I would do without my brother. If the first try was successful, I would never have had him in my life and to think of my life without our relationship is a life I don't want to live. I know it was horrid for my parents to go threw such a thing but for me, "Its probably for the best", really was. I say this to you not to undermine your griefs but to tell you that sometimes awful things only seem awful when they happen. Its hard to see what's happening when one is on the inside of a situation. I mean all this with respect.
Cheers.
When a friend's baby died at age 4 months, someone said to her, "I know how you feel because my dog just died."I think the worst one I ever heard was when I lost my baby at five months of pregnancy, "It's probably for the best."
When a friend's baby died at age 4 months, someone said to her, "I know how you feel because my dog just died."
What a horrible thing to say. It is never for the best and there is always a hole left in one's heart. You needed your mom, I hope she came to be with you.I think the worst one I ever heard was when I lost my baby at five months of pregnancy, "It's probably for the best."
Four String Chef said:That is a rough thing to say to someone in that situation. My mother had a 6 month miscarriage before me; I was supposed to be the youngest, my parents only wanted two. They tried again in the thought of just two. I was born; three years later my little brother was born. I can't say much for myself but I don't know what I would do without my brother. If the first try was successful, I would never have had him in my life and to think of my life without our relationship is a life I don't want to live. I know it was horrid for my parents to go threw such a thing but for me, "Its probably for the best", really was. I say this to you not to undermine your griefs but to tell you that sometimes awful things only seem awful when they happen. Its hard to see what's happening when one is on the inside of a situation. I mean all this with respect.
Cheers.
No, my sister paid for my ticket to come stay with her. She was the one who seemed to really understand.What a horrible thing to say. It is never for the best and there is always a hole left in one's heart. You needed your mom, I hope she came to be with you.
LPBeier said:Oh my, I have tears in my eyes at these stories of losing children and people being heartless. I was never able to have a child and for many years this fact really bothered me. I felt I was being cheated and it was not a topic I wanted to discuss. My mother had 12 pregnancies (I was number 11) and three births were successful, though my middle sister died before I was born at age three. The last pregnancy was a boy who Mom felt stopped moving on my first birthday and was stillborn at 7 months a few days later. A "friend" of the family told me to not be so sad that I have no children "because at least you didn't have to go though all that your mother did to have you". Thanks lady!
The things people say, when they don't stop to think...Oh my, I have tears in my eyes at these stories of losing children and people being heartless. I was never able to have a child and for many years this fact really bothered me. I felt I was being cheated and it was not a topic I wanted to discuss. My mother had 12 pregnancies (I was number 11) and three births were successful, though my middle sister died before I was born at age three. The last pregnancy was a boy who Mom felt stopped moving on my first birthday and was stillborn at 7 months a few days later. A "friend" of the family told me to not be so sad that I have no children "because at least you didn't have to go though all that your mother did to have you". Thanks lady!
Don't be sorry. I am blessed with probably 100 or more children over the years through youth groups, cooking at summer camp, and even working as a nanny. Some of my "kids" have married (I made many of their cakes) and I even have a few grand "kids"! I hated Mother's day because I wasn't one and my Mother passed away 17 years ago from cancer (yes, she was grateful for the children she had). Then I started getting flowers and cards from these young people and I realized that I didn't have to give birth to be a Mother at Heart.People just don't have a clue. I'm so sorry you were never able to have a child. I'm sure your mom considers every ounce of pain worth it.
I'm sorry that you had your experience, TL. It is bad enough when it is a non family member, but for your Mom to not think would be really hard.The things people say, when they don't stop to think...