Legs; You have stated that you enjoy watching martial artistis, and that your avatar is based on a particular martial artist. Though I have never had a physical addiction, I, like everyone else has had emotional problems at one time or another in my life. I have found that activities that require concentration, especially physical concentration will relieve stress, and improve your self image and self respect more than almost anything else.
For me, it was Judo and Kuk Sul Won, dirt-biking, and archery. Each of those activities required extreme concentration and enhanced my fitness level, ability to discipline myself, and acted as a stress relief.
For some people, tyhing fishing flies does it for them. Others enjoy the challenge of a puzzle. Some play darts. Teh point is, there is some activity out there that will capture your spirit, something you want to be great at. It could be learning to play a musical instrument, or learning to sing. I could be anything.
Other activities that really help are to put do good things for others, voluntarily. When you give of yourself, then you build your self esteem like crazy, and receive the joy that comes from knowing that you helped ease the burdens of another.
Their are many paths to self-healing. When you heal yourself, then you will be ready to be the husband and father that your family desearves. And their is no greater satisfaction of being the best there is at that job.
Seeeeeeya; Goodweed of the North