Addie
Chef Extraordinaire
Kayelle, I'm not sure what your point is. Please explain.
First of all, RB and his wife are willing to help but realize there is a financial impact. Mom has some resources so should be willing to contribute.
What input could the SILs have that would be relevant? They don't know RB's financial situation (and he shouldn't have to share it) and may not know all of mom's. I don't see this as a situation where mom's money needs to be protected by the SILs because RB and his wife are "money hungry" and a "wimp" as in your previous story.
Unless the SILs are being asked to help financially, they should not be involved.
I have to agree with you Andy. The sisters have no need to know the finances of the MIL or RB. The only information they are entitled to is where their mother is presently residing and that they will have access to visiting her anytime they want to as long as it doesn't interfere with RB and the family dynamics. If the MIL wishes to share her own finances with her other two daughters, then that is her choice. As long as she keep her confidence regarding RB's financial information.
At one time my daughter knew all my financial information. Not anymore. Since her illness, I have had to transfer little by little all responsibility over to my youngest and oldest son. Mostly my oldest. I don't even let her know when and how much I get for my COLA increase each January. But I do let Spike know.
My daughter is relieved that she no longer is responsible for my wellbeing anymore. That has all been shifted to my oldest and youngest. Perhaps the two daughters will feel the same way.
BTW RB, make sure she has a will in place. Because she will have other monies from the sale of her home and her bank account, it will save a lot of problems later in life.