Unfortunately James cannot be on time for anything. I read something about people with ADD, and it said that they have unrealistic ideas about time. I think James honestly thinks he can get up, eat breakfast, take a shower, and get dressed all in 10 minutes. I have had to resort to telling him we have to be places earlier, but I can't do that all the time. I do it when something is really important. Time is just not important to James, he thinks the world is too wrapped up in time. It drives me totally crazy!
Barbara
They are lazy and have no cares for anyone but themselves...They need to be taught a hard lesson..OOOOOps sorry dinner was at 8 would you like a pbj sandwich?
kades
Tomorrow I'll be embarrassed that I vented this to y'all but I don't have anyone to call at this hour to complain. Grrrr. It just makes me so angry that he can't behave himself.
Aww, Sweetie, I'm really sorry you're having to go through this. It must be really hard with him so far away that you can't go and get him and fuss at him all the way home!Arrgh. I am so MAD right now I can't see straight. My husband is really a nice guy but when he drinks he gets so obnoxious. He was flying home from San Diego today and the flight was delayed. Evidently he had a couple of drinks in the airport and then had 2 (its just a 1 hr. flight !!!!) drinks between San Diego and Phoenix, where he evidently got kicked off the plane. He keeps calling me to tell me not to come pick him up - he has told me he's in Albuquerque twice, once he said he was in Dallas, but according to the airline his plane just left Phoenix so that's where I'm going to guess he is.
This has never happened before. I've been with him when he was obnoxiously drunk and have been able to control his behavior, but when I'm not there - ugh... I guess he will fly stand-by tomorrow (on New Year's Eve) and I am just mad enough to scream. I had tailored my whole day today to be up late and drive to the airport over 1 hour away to pick him up. I just hope the airline will let him on a plane tomorrow.
Tomorrow I'll be embarrassed that I vented this to y'all but I don't have anyone to call at this hour to complain. Grrrr. It just makes me so angry that he can't behave himself.
There is not a reason in the world for you to be embarrassed, you've done nothing wrong..Get some rest and then look at things with an unclouded mind tomorrow...Hopefully this will be the end of it..And remember we are here for you to talk to without being embarrassed..We just want to help and comfort you.Arrgh. I am so MAD right now I can't see straight. My husband is really a nice guy but when he drinks he gets so obnoxious. He was flying home from San Diego today and the flight was delayed. Evidently he had a couple of drinks in the airport and then had 2 (its just a 1 hr. flight !!!!) drinks between San Diego and Phoenix, where he evidently got kicked off the plane. He keeps calling me to tell me not to come pick him up - he has told me he's in Albuquerque twice, once he said he was in Dallas, but according to the airline his plane just left Phoenix so that's where I'm going to guess he is.
This has never happened before. I've been with him when he was obnoxiously drunk and have been able to control his behavior, but when I'm not there - ugh... I guess he will fly stand-by tomorrow (on New Year's Eve) and I am just mad enough to scream. I had tailored my whole day today to be up late and drive to the airport over 1 hour away to pick him up. I just hope the airline will let him on a plane tomorrow.
Tomorrow I'll be embarrassed that I vented this to y'all but I don't have anyone to call at this hour to complain. Grrrr. It just makes me so angry that he can't behave himself.
I'm so sorry you had that little pang of disappointment, miniman. I know how much you love your family and value your family time and try to make everything special for them. I think you're right about longing to recapture the idealized Christmas of our past. And it's funny about the size of the "pile" in front of you - it isn't the gifts at all. It's the whole "how good were you last year" and "how much are you loved" validation thing. It's a hard thing to rid your psychi of.Actually I think this is the time when people bicker more - not a lot of people working and they are bored , so pick on something to make an argument. I believe this time between Christmas & New Year is one of the highest family break up points in the UK. It's sad, but often driven by unreal expectations of the period - so many people want the Christmas they remember and burn them selves out trying to do it and things go wrong. I've come to the point and try to be laid back and take it my stride.
I still though get upset - this year I got what I asked for from DW and the boys but it still siappointed me - I don't know why, possibly just wanting something to show they thought things through and chose something as a surprise with me in mind. Also let myself get upset because I had a really small pile in front of me and the others had great big piles. I had to turn around as say to myself that you are adult and it really is that important anyway and put it behind me. We went on to have a lovely day - peaceful, all working together to get the meal out and then relaxing in front of the telly.