Dear Marge; I know you to be a woman of Christian faith, and so don't think this post is out of the DC boundaries as it is directed to you. Think of why we celebrate Christmas. It is a celebration of the birth of Jesus Christ. And in our faith, He overcame the bounds of death and was resurected so that we all might overcome physical death and be resurected. You son is waiting for you to come to him, and to your other loved ones who left mortality before you. You will be with John again. It will just take some time.
Be strengthened by that knowledge, and gladdened by the clebration of the Christmas season, just past. I know it's a bit difficult as John and your husband aren't there with you. But as you smile, and laugh, with the rest of your family, and your grandchildren, I know that John will be watching, and his spirit will be gladdened to see your joy.
Help the others in your family to understand these ideas. You will find your hearts heavy burdens lightened.
Seeeeeeeya; Goodweed of the North