Addie
Chef Extraordinaire
It wasn't me. I took a muscle relaxer, laid my head down around 2 p.m. and just woke up. It is now 8:30 p.m. If I could have stayed longer, I would have finished up your wrapping, while you finished the scarf.
What are you doing?
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It wasn't me. I took a muscle relaxer, laid my head down around 2 p.m. and just woke up. It is now 8:30 p.m. If I could have stayed longer, I would have finished up your wrapping, while you finished the scarf.
Addie
Chef Extraordinaire
I had to go to UTUBE and listen to the Andrews Sisters sing Rum and Coca Cola!!!
Rum and Coca-Cola
Rum and Coca-Cola
Workin' for the Yankee dollar
Listening to Dominic, The Italian Donkey over and over again.
Timothy
Head Chef
Is it just my PC or is this thread all scrunched over to the left side of anyone else's screen? It happened to me right after posting the youtube flash mob file. The rest of the site is behaving properly.
Addie
Chef Extraordinaire
Vit, you can count on the prayers from all of us. I have a group of seven friends. And when one of us is in need of prayers, it always works. My heart goes out to you and yours.
vitauta
Executive Chef
thank you tim, dawg, and addie. a better tomorrow....
Addie
Chef Extraordinaire
Your Circle of Prayer is at work.
Since I slept the day away, I will be up all night if you need anyone to talk to.
Addie
Chef Extraordinaire
Sending my thoughts your way, Vit! Hugs and love!
I'm baking a ham for work. We have a Christmas lunch at work tomorrow and a Christmas breakfast Thursday morning so I got a 6 lb ham and will slice it and split it between the two parties.
Oh, I also just finished the last of my Christmas shopping online while I'm waiting.
Oh, I also just finished the last of my Christmas shopping online while I'm waiting.
JoAnn L.
Master Chef
I am so sorry about your mom. My heart goes out to her and to you. JoAnn
Andy M.
Certified Pretend Chef
I have been in a similar situation. We are keeping you and your mom in our thoughts.
vitauta
Executive Chef
thank you to all of you for your kind and comforting words. it is 53 degrees at 11:25p.m. here in c-ville! i'm going to take a nice walk....
Vitauta, I send my thoughts and my prayers to you and your family. I totally relate to your situation even though ours are at different parts of the same story. Please take some time for yourself as you won't be any good for your Mom or anyone else if you don't.
I spent the day trying to decide whether to call an ambulance for my Dad or not. He is not eating or drinking much, slept most of the day - which in itself is not unusual, but today he actually was in bed - most other days he is dressed and in his lift chair/recliner. His breathing is laboured, though his sat levels are very good, as are his heart rate and blood sugar but his temperature and blood pressure are a bit high, he is weak and I believe dehydrated. I was thinking when checking all of these vitals that two years ago I wouldn't have had a clue how to measure and read these numbers and now it is all too much second nature. He is better tonight, but not much. I will be "on duty" again tonight because my DH is pulling double shifts with his two jobs. I would have just called the ambulance, but I know that my Dad just wants "to die". I know that is isn't going to happen any time soon, but he wants to be at home.
As for me, I have bottomed out. I was trying to make last minute baking for Christmas gifts, including pastry for my tourtieres as the filling is chilled in the fridge, but I just don't have the energy or desire. Christmas baking is usually my favourite thing in the whole world. I keep running in my head - did I make the right call by not phoning or not.
I think this roller coaster ride has been stuck in overdrive for too long. Veterans Affairs called today to say they would be covering the raise in his personal care and out of the blue the guy told me that Dad would probably qualify for funding if he needed to go into a facility. Today of all days.
I am sorry for dragging this thread down. Like Vitauta, it is just very stressful watching a parent deteriorate like that. He says he wants to die, but he is doing everything in his power to fight it.
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Addie
Chef Extraordinaire
The hardest part of having to make these decisions is knowing that to honor the wishes of your loved one is going to cause a great deal of pain for you. But try to keep in mind that it is the wishes of your loved one that is important, not yours. In my heart, I have to say, you have made the right decision in allowing him to pass in his home, than in a sterile hospital setting.
My youngest son is a Physician Assistant. He is my medical proxy and knows my wishes. When I had my heart attack last week, the hospital called him and he made sure, against all his training that there was a DNR in place. All my children know my wishes. They may not be what they want to do, but I remind them that it is me in that bed, not them. When my daughter-in-law died last year, my son had to make the decision to pull the plug. Her siblings were there along with her sons. They were so against his decision. But he still feels that he made the right decision.
My heart goes out to you and I will keep you in my prayers and thoughts.
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As long as what you are doing is what is best for your Dad, you are making the right decisions. I'm not there in body, but I am with you in spirit. Remember to take care of yourself, too!
Thanks, Princess. I think the taking care of myself part is the tough part. I am not sleeping, eating properly and my mind is in 23 places at once.
However, my best friend is taking me to a local tea room today. I have heard about it but never been there and am as excited as a little kid! DH is NOT doing a double shift today so he can stay with Dad and let me go.
Before that I need to make pastry and get her tourtiere finished, take the dogs to the groomers (Violet gets a manicure/pedicure
and Joie gets the "full meal deal"), be here for the cleaning ladies and pack up goodies for them.
Thanks, I needed to upgrade my avatar from last year's model!Oh, just a little something for your yard.......
