smoke king
Sous Chef
I've got a problem-dilemma is probably a better word.
We have a family member who has fallen on hard times....again. I know that her problems are without a doubt self-inflicted, but once again, she needs "help" in the form of a place to stay, until she can get "back on her feet"
Normally, I wouldn't even give it a second thought-I was raised to believe that you don't turn your back on family. However, we've reached out to her before, and its always ended badly. Shes addicted to RX pain medication, and a few other illegal drugs as well. Her previous stays with us have always resulted in her stealing from us-and I mean multiple thousands of dollars. Shes been arrested, but always recieved a minor wrist slap and released with minimal reprecussion (this is the main reason I loathe liberal politics, but DC is not the time or place for that debate!!) So, in a nutshell, at 28 years of age, has really never had to be accountable for anything shes ever done.
This young lady is chemically (and alchohol) dependant, a master manipulator, and from what I can tell, has no conscience whatsoever. We have raised her child since he was 18 months old (he's now almost 8 years old) and everytime shes lived with us, her moving out was only a result of her being led away in handcuffs. She is an absolute train wreck of a person, and while help has been available to her she has always refused it-with extreme prejudice.
I realize that from the outside looking in, the answer is obvious to most, but no matter how I approach it, to me, she is family-and I've been raised to believe you don't turn your back on your family.
I'm driving myself crazy going back and forth on this one-my stomach hurts and I'm sure its got to be an ulcer. So I thought I'd turn to you all-I'm hoping a fresh perspective will help.
I'll thank everybody, in advance, for their thoughts, opinions and advice.
We have a family member who has fallen on hard times....again. I know that her problems are without a doubt self-inflicted, but once again, she needs "help" in the form of a place to stay, until she can get "back on her feet"
Normally, I wouldn't even give it a second thought-I was raised to believe that you don't turn your back on family. However, we've reached out to her before, and its always ended badly. Shes addicted to RX pain medication, and a few other illegal drugs as well. Her previous stays with us have always resulted in her stealing from us-and I mean multiple thousands of dollars. Shes been arrested, but always recieved a minor wrist slap and released with minimal reprecussion (this is the main reason I loathe liberal politics, but DC is not the time or place for that debate!!) So, in a nutshell, at 28 years of age, has really never had to be accountable for anything shes ever done.
This young lady is chemically (and alchohol) dependant, a master manipulator, and from what I can tell, has no conscience whatsoever. We have raised her child since he was 18 months old (he's now almost 8 years old) and everytime shes lived with us, her moving out was only a result of her being led away in handcuffs. She is an absolute train wreck of a person, and while help has been available to her she has always refused it-with extreme prejudice.
I realize that from the outside looking in, the answer is obvious to most, but no matter how I approach it, to me, she is family-and I've been raised to believe you don't turn your back on your family.
I'm driving myself crazy going back and forth on this one-my stomach hurts and I'm sure its got to be an ulcer. So I thought I'd turn to you all-I'm hoping a fresh perspective will help.
I'll thank everybody, in advance, for their thoughts, opinions and advice.