bakechef
Executive Chef
Got a question for you bakechef. With my friends John and Billy, Billy gleefully calls himself the wife in the marriage. Are one of you going to be the wife? Or are you going to hunt me down to smack me for asking?
See now that's a complicated question. I often refer to him as "the Mrs.". He's the more flamboyant one, but then he has a lot of straight guy traits. He hogs the remote, leaves clean dishes on the counter because he claims to not know where they go, he can only cook enough to keep himself alive, he has the more "butch" job. At work I'm a cake decorator, I do all of the cooking at home, but on the flip side, at home I'm the handyman, the tech geek, and I come off as "straight" to people when I first meet them.
It's interesting once you become part of the gay community and realize just how different it is than the way we are portrayed on TV and in movies. One of my best friends we call "straight Matt", he is a football junkie, he doesn't dress all that well, he can't decorate AT ALL, and he isn't neat. One of the local professional drag queens drives a Ford F-250 (the big one) truck, it's funny seeing a big truck roll up with someone with even bigger hair!
No I don't take offence at this at all. There are roles to play in a relationship, so many are curious how that fits in a gay relationship! Heck those roles are changing in straight relationships more than ever.