Corey123
Washing Up
kyles said:I found the literature you posted on AA very enlightening, Mylegisbig. My father is an alcoholic, and there seems to be little support in Australia at least, outside the traditional AA route, which I never thought was very successful. It wouldn't work for me if I was an alcoholic, which I'm not.
My parents are both addicted to alcohol. My mother went to an outpatient rehab program which was successful to a point, but she has gone back to regularly drinking now. She can't stay dry with my father around.
I think one of the huge problems with alcohol is that it works. I does numb pain, and makes you feel feelings that aren't real, like that you are in a friendly environment and having fun, and that you are witty, bright and a good conversationalist. I know the odd times I have been drunk I have initially felt good, then you cross that line and feel rotten.
Corey, I strongly believe you need to listen to your heart. Your heart will tell you when you have done what you can and need to walk away.
You can't make anyone change. You can be there for them, and encourage them, but don't get yourself caught up in a cycle.
I would love to see my dad have just one week sober. But I have to accept now that he's 81 and been drinking regularly since he was 18, that it is just not ever going to happen.
So sorry to hear that your mom and dad are alcoholics. I hope that you can help and encourage them in their time of need and give him some support.
As for my friend, yes, I realise that I can't make him change. I can only encourage him. He has to be able to stand on his own two feet, say "Enough is enough!!", as they say and WANT TO make some changes with his life and dealing with alcoholism.
It's much too hard to just up and walk away, as I explained before. I don't have the heart to do that, as if I did, I'd feel awfully bad.
He says that I'm the only true friend he's got and I believe him. My heart tells me to try to help and encourage him in acheiving his goals of overcoming his problems.
Unless you mean just wait and see what he does and try to go from there.
~Corey123.
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