How about asking your husband how the two of you can make this situation more pleasant. Does he have any suggestions?
I am slowly training the DH to put his dishes in the DW. One of my pet peeves is dishes in the sink. My dad does the same thing, has a bowl of ice cream and leaves the bowl (not rinsed) in the sink. Drives me crazy when I get up in the morning and I see that dirty dish with dried ice cream residue on it. How hard is it to rinse a bowl and put the bowl and spoon in the DW?I guess you could whine back (makes me think of Doug and Wendy Whiner).
Seriously though, I am sorry that you are feeling the way you are. He should be treating you like a queen. Just the simple act of my DH putting both his plate and mine in the kitchen after we eat goes a very long way. I am spoiled.
How about asking your husband how the two of you can make this situation more pleasant. Does he have any suggestions?
Certainly no one deserves to be treated rudely. Ever. There are lots of things you COULD do, just remember that reacting and responding are two very different things. If you just react to his whining, things will go in a circle, you'll both feel upset at one another and it never ends. If you respond by trying to figure out what is behind all of it, he will feel better because you listened to him and you will feel better as well.
Don't make the mistake of treating him like your child, he's not, even though he might be acting like a child. Perhaps if you made some very small changes that allow him more control over his meals he won't have so much cause to complain. It may mean slightly more work for you, but sometimes the smallest changes yield the biggest results. Continue to serve your daughter her portion on her plate, but put the rest of your wonderful cooking out on the table and let your husband serve himself. That way, he can take as much of whatever he wants and leave what he doesn't. It might be a nice lesson for your daughter too, she could learn proper portion control that way.
Good luck PT. Again, I'm sorry you've had to deal with this crankiness. I hope you can figure out a way to get it all resolved.
Why yes. Yes he does. "Is it breaded?? Is it fried??" A mantra.....of sorts.
A standard recipe in my household is Chicken Schnitzel, Everyone loves it, breaded, fried for him, with a squeeze of lemon on top for me and the DD. AND it is a meal in minutes. Best of all worlds food wise in this house, but I get tired of having it more than once every few weeks.
PT--maybe you could get your husband to watch some of the foodie shows with you
It is called "virtual" cooking--sort of like reading what everyone else has had for dinner when you're eating microwave popcorn...This cracked me up.......as stated in the OP I stopped cooking for 4+ years, BUT, I always watched the cooking shows {new trends n all} DH could not understand WHY watch these things if not cooking at all.