Good Luck!!!! One year I was moving ... and three different households invited us to stay with them, day here and there, over the move. Usually this is a GOOD thing! Haha! All three households had someone who was in the process of stopping. My husband and I thought we'd go crazy. All households would have had hurt feelings had we chosen to stay in a hotel and meet for a meal or drinks at a restaurant. But, heaven forbid, don't visit someone who is trying to stop smoking. One was my father, and he was successful. The other two people I've lost track of, so don't know if they were or not. Two of the three had the patch (Dad used it, successfully), but one thought the patch couldn't stop him and got really, really sick with nicotine overdose.
The real thing is that you have to be doing it for you; not your spouse, your children, your friends. Even then it is very hard.
I never started that bad habit (believe me, I have my own vice) because I watched Mom stop when I was 12 and decided, never.
Our thoughts and prayers are with you; good luck.
Oh, yes, it helped that Daddy is skinny, and he kept a jar of candy nearby.
Oh I wish I was skinny... I've been awake for 5 hours...doing very well and Shrek isn't throwing money at me telling me to go buy a pack of cigarettes...I must be behaving myself.