Normally, if it isn't something very personal, I guess it's okay with us. We don't discuss personal or sensitive issues in public simply because we hear too many of these from a table near us and we just feel like telling them to take it outside. Plus, personal and sensitive issues don't belong in public, period.
My DH is a little more reserved in his conversations and his humor is more dry and subtle than most. I love it! I'm very outgoing and I poke fun at everything and anything.
A few weeks ago we went to a fantastic Italian restaurant, and a sweet lady server came to us (we like her very much) and said she was training a new lady server, and asked us very respectfully if we would mind giving the new lady our order, etc.
We said sure, of course, but some people don't like to be bothered with a new server in training. How are you going to learn if people say no all the time? Our lady server, Lydia, said, "I'd like to bring her here to you guys because you're so much fun."
I replied, "Cool. Bring on the rookie."
So here she comes, Lydia watches a few feet away. The new lady is Teresa.
She introduced herself, and we introduced ourselves. Then I rubbed my hands together gleefully and cooed, "Oooooh, look, honey, a new victim. This is going to be fun!"
He knows to lead me on. He said, "Tell her what happened to the last new server we helped." (The answer is always weird and different.)
I smiled and said, "Oh yeah, that one. She's pursuing a very rewarding career in the Peace Corps in Siberia. Isn't that wonderful?"
Hubby shrugged. "I guess she couldn't cut it in the restaurant business."
Teresa glared at us both. Then she winked and said very sweetly, "Remember it is I who will carry your food from the kitchen to your table. You don't want any mishaps this evening, do you?"
LOL! Lydia was aghast, and said she had no idea Teresa would say that. I pretended to ignore Lydia and told Teresa, "Oh, don't mind her, dear. She's really a pussycat. Her parole officer has nothing but good things to say about her, trust me."
That was a great evening! We traded one-liners and good-natured barbs and just had a good time of it. Lydia relaxed after that, and we over-tipped them both.
Teresa was a hoot, she was on top of things with a little help from Lydia, and all four of us had fun.
Tonight we went there again, and Teresa greeted us with, "Oh. You two. The outhouse is taken, so follow me."
She took us to a table and pulled out both chairs and said, "Sit. Stay. No begging."
LOL! I said, "Yeah, yeah, no tails in the plates. I get it."
We placed our order with jokes and when the salads came, she looked at them and said, "Nope. This is wrong," and took them back.
They were the right salads. She didn't think there were enough toppings on them for us, as the salad guy was new. Oh my, those salads were heaven on earth when she brought them back! Extra cheese, extra olives, extra bacon bits, and extra dressing on the side.
Wow....just wow. We thanked her profusely (no joking, we meant it) and she smiled and said, "I love to joke and cut up with people, and I'll never forget how you two made me feel like I belong here that first night."
We told her she did belong, and that we enjoyed her, and then I have to mess it up. I said, "Well, honey, to be honest, we've had a crappy day at work and we need someone to pick on."
She gave us her sweet smile again, and replied, "Of course, I understand. That's why I've seated you at the table that self-destructs after forty minutes, so you'd better eat up quick."
Now THAT's a server! We do like to interact with them. Tonight we found out she has been married four years (gorgeous wedding set) and they're saving money to have their first child. Her DH works for the sheriff's department running background checks for people applying for concealed-carry weapons and other administrative duties.
They have a beagle and two cats and they just bought a small starter home last fall.
So anyway, when we go out to eat, it can be so much fun to get to know your server. I asked her what dog and cat stuff her pets like and she told me. I'll be clipping coupons for her she can use for them.
I'm still laughing at: "Sit. Stay. No begging."
Thank you, Teresa!