awww, suz, i almost got tearful. you're a great person.
often work is important. i've read you're struggling, & my fam struggled, too, & hear me when i say very young kiddos understand that days 'er better fer them if Mum/Dad work late some days. that means fresh crayons, new sneakers, & a spiffy Mom.
& your babies aren't going hungry cause thier Mum is putting food on thier table!!
my Parents worked full-time since i was born, & i wasn't affected. i was with Gram & Pap during my days. was oblivious to my Parent's work, cause i knew they'd left me with people i loved & would be there at 5:30 fer us.
& 99% of stuff that needed to be cleaned, dishes aside, were from us kiddos.