Cooking Goddess
Chef Extraordinaire
Just remember you WEREN'T stupid, you were hurt. I'm going to give you some really tough advice here, but it is something that has served me well for decades. You need to decide that, no matter what others say or how they treat you that makes you feel bad, you remind yourself that you are better than that. Let that be your thought the next time someone does something that makes you feel bad. Rather than show the reaction that others are hoping for from you, show them how strong and mature of a person you are. But if they escalate their behavior to try and get a bigger reaction do be sure to let someone in authority know immediately - like your college advisor or the campus police.....The classmates did not help to clean it. They just pointed at Joy and laughed and walked away of me. I suppose I did look stupid standing at Joy and crying....
Years ago it was OK to tease a little and it was OK. Now anything is called bullying - I think by doing that it's only encouraged people who will tease to up the ante and go for more shock value, not help the issue. I've never been the smartest, or prettiest, or most popular one in the room, so over the years I've been teased...a little. I've never let that make me feel that that I was just as good as others, just good in my own way. It's at that point you have to decide whether you chose to be strong or to be the victim. You came to a strange land to help your aging aunt and to get a good education so that you can be a successful person throughout your life. No way you can be a victim - be strong!