buckytom
Chef Extraordinaire
when did you realize you were a foodie, that is to say when did you first remember loving food, and it's preparation? for me it was on sundays as a kid. sundays were for feasting...
When I was young, my best friend Gregg, who was a typical Italian American boy from North Jersey, and I would eat at each others house for dinner on the weekends. He loved to eat at my house on Saturdays, with my big Irish/Norwegian American family all around the table, each of us discussing the matters of the day and enjoying our "portions" of
the family dinner. It's not like we were starving, but my mother had usually made just enough to feed everyone, not much extra. Gregg would politely eat his meal, answer my father's questions with great respect, and shyly smile at my sisters (I only have 4 sisters, but it seemed like 12). Gregg would always show me up by asking for permission to leave the table, and clean up after himself and wash his plate. I never understood why he liked to eat at my house so much, but now thinking back, it is perfectly clear.
On Sundays, I got to eat at Gregg's. I had barely made it through the week on crumbs and water (only kidding, my mother would kill me), and with God's will, I had made it to Sunday. Sundays were for feasting. Just after church, I would race home, Gregg in tow, and change out of Sunday clothes and back into ones more suited for destruction.
We had about an hour to kill before the gates of heaven, or Gregg's Mom's kitchen, would spill forth with all of the bounty of the angels. Antipasti, salume, cheeses, breads, pickled stuff I still can't identify but ate with impunity, all for the taking.
Then homemade pastas, huge homemade ravioli the size of your head, and the Sunday gravy. Oh, the Sunday gravy. Pieces of pork ribs, sausages, veal, meatballs, and garden veggies all bubbling in a wine-infused tomato sauce. Yes, a wine/meat/veggie/tomato marinara was called gravy. Get over it. You didn't mind the burns on your fingers when
dipping buttered bread into the gravy, or the slaps upside your head. I couldn't believe people could eat like this; just how many relatives were coming over. 100! 200! I had reached nirvana and I wasn't leaving until I couldn't see my feet. It still didn't end there. Just when I thought I had set a new record for gluttony, and figured I'd better bring a pillow to the confessional, the desserts came out. Cannoli, cookies, chocolates, tiramisu, canneloni zabaglione, frutti di bosco,
tartufo, tortoni; OMG. These are my people. I was sure I was born into the wrong family. I love my family, but I was sure that this is why we are put on this earth. We were even allowed to try a sip of homemade wine or even grappa when Gregg's mom wasn't around. Wine, The Great Babysitter.
Every Sunday was like this; holidays even better. I would eat like there was no tomorrow. I would go home Sunday night with a giant belly and a bruised face. Italians have a way of nearly lifting a child off the ground by the cheek if he does something cute. All I did was eat. What was most amazing was this kind of behaviour was encouraged! Heck, it was like the son they always dreamed of had suddenly shown up.
Eventually, I realized that Gregg really didn't like to eat, but loved to just sit and enjoy good classical music and conversation. My parents loved him. In his house, the music was loud (usually something by Perry Como or Dean Martin) and the conversation was always about food. NOT eating was the sin. On Saturdays, my mom would say in her Brooklyn accent,"Why can't you be more like Gregg, he's so polite and machoowaa (mature)", and his mom the same about me the next day. We were perfect friends.
I lost contact with Gregg over the years, but I still remember our weekends. After writing this, I think I'll try to see if I can find him. Maybe he's going to his parents’ house this Sunday...
When I was young, my best friend Gregg, who was a typical Italian American boy from North Jersey, and I would eat at each others house for dinner on the weekends. He loved to eat at my house on Saturdays, with my big Irish/Norwegian American family all around the table, each of us discussing the matters of the day and enjoying our "portions" of
the family dinner. It's not like we were starving, but my mother had usually made just enough to feed everyone, not much extra. Gregg would politely eat his meal, answer my father's questions with great respect, and shyly smile at my sisters (I only have 4 sisters, but it seemed like 12). Gregg would always show me up by asking for permission to leave the table, and clean up after himself and wash his plate. I never understood why he liked to eat at my house so much, but now thinking back, it is perfectly clear.
On Sundays, I got to eat at Gregg's. I had barely made it through the week on crumbs and water (only kidding, my mother would kill me), and with God's will, I had made it to Sunday. Sundays were for feasting. Just after church, I would race home, Gregg in tow, and change out of Sunday clothes and back into ones more suited for destruction.
We had about an hour to kill before the gates of heaven, or Gregg's Mom's kitchen, would spill forth with all of the bounty of the angels. Antipasti, salume, cheeses, breads, pickled stuff I still can't identify but ate with impunity, all for the taking.
Then homemade pastas, huge homemade ravioli the size of your head, and the Sunday gravy. Oh, the Sunday gravy. Pieces of pork ribs, sausages, veal, meatballs, and garden veggies all bubbling in a wine-infused tomato sauce. Yes, a wine/meat/veggie/tomato marinara was called gravy. Get over it. You didn't mind the burns on your fingers when
dipping buttered bread into the gravy, or the slaps upside your head. I couldn't believe people could eat like this; just how many relatives were coming over. 100! 200! I had reached nirvana and I wasn't leaving until I couldn't see my feet. It still didn't end there. Just when I thought I had set a new record for gluttony, and figured I'd better bring a pillow to the confessional, the desserts came out. Cannoli, cookies, chocolates, tiramisu, canneloni zabaglione, frutti di bosco,
tartufo, tortoni; OMG. These are my people. I was sure I was born into the wrong family. I love my family, but I was sure that this is why we are put on this earth. We were even allowed to try a sip of homemade wine or even grappa when Gregg's mom wasn't around. Wine, The Great Babysitter.
Every Sunday was like this; holidays even better. I would eat like there was no tomorrow. I would go home Sunday night with a giant belly and a bruised face. Italians have a way of nearly lifting a child off the ground by the cheek if he does something cute. All I did was eat. What was most amazing was this kind of behaviour was encouraged! Heck, it was like the son they always dreamed of had suddenly shown up.
Eventually, I realized that Gregg really didn't like to eat, but loved to just sit and enjoy good classical music and conversation. My parents loved him. In his house, the music was loud (usually something by Perry Como or Dean Martin) and the conversation was always about food. NOT eating was the sin. On Saturdays, my mom would say in her Brooklyn accent,"Why can't you be more like Gregg, he's so polite and machoowaa (mature)", and his mom the same about me the next day. We were perfect friends.
I lost contact with Gregg over the years, but I still remember our weekends. After writing this, I think I'll try to see if I can find him. Maybe he's going to his parents’ house this Sunday...