"The fear of missing out".. how bad it is to our world?

[SEEING-TO-BELIEVE]

is it one of the most major things that causing our world to go downward?




do you have a lot of it? if no, are you sure?

 

[Chief Longwind Of The North]

The only thing I'm missing out on is the strength, and vitality I had as a young adult. I never had much desire for things, or money, just good freinds, the forests, and water I grew up around, and adventure. I had some great, and honorable friends over the years. I wish I was still around them as well.

Seeeeya; Chief Longwind of the North

Seeeeya; Chief Longwind of the North

 

[SEEING-TO-BELIEVE]

so you are one of a kind Chief Longwind Of The North


it is common for almost everyone then to be highly susceptible to fomo

 

[SEEING-TO-BELIEVE]

and it makes me very sad that the is the world i'm living at.......

 

[taxlady]

Why do you see FOMO as a problem? Just curious, not saying it is or isn't.

 

[SEEING-TO-BELIEVE]

because people think they miss 'something something' way too often
and they create even more expectation for others who think to themselves.. "if he has a fomo for that, i probably miss that too".
and it duplicates itself very fast until people become much more stupid than what they previously were.

 

[SEEING-TO-BELIEVE]

if you want examples i can try to think of some

 

[GotGarlic]

I would like to see some examples. What makes you think that lots of people think this way and that it's spreading?

 

[Chief Longwind Of The North]

At least in my generation, in my home town, people saved a little from each paycheck, until they had enough money to get what they desired, without going in debt. For instance, neither I, or any of my friends owned new vehicles. We always bought used, and did our own repair work. My snowmobile was a hand-me-down, with a bad engine. I had an after school job, and saved every cent, except lunch money, until /i could afford to purchase a new engine. I also bought the fiberglass, sheeting, and paint to repair the cowling. My first car was a rusted out Dodge, that burned a lot of oil. I rebuilt that engine

I did the same thing on a 69 Dodge van. I got 0ver 350,000 miles out of that vehicle, and the engine, and transmission were still good. The body was rusted out from the salt put on the roads in winter.

This was the norm, as wages weren't great, and we were taught to avoid debt. I taught my own children the same lessons. Not everyone feels the need to keep up with the Joneses.

Seeeeya; Chief Longwind of the North

 

[dragnlaw]

I think many people are more worried about getting food on the table than other things.

I may really want something but, like the Chief, if I can't afford it now, I save for it. More often than not by the time I have the money I've changed my mind and don't want it any more anyhow.
An exception would be, for example... my washing machine. I can do without a dryer but I draw the line at doing the laundry by hand!

As for Jack and Jill having a new patio set, well, I'll just go and have supper at their house and enjoy it.

 

[taxlady]

Is that what you were talking about S-T-B? People buying stuff that they can't afford, just because they fear missing out on owning it?

I'm still waiting to see some examples of what you mean?

 

[SEEING-TO-BELIEVE]

this is one aspect of it. buying things because others have them too.


people also fear of missing out what it means to behave badly. they will behave bad to other people just to be 'included'/cool.
and the worst part is playing innocent when they do that.


i've a problem to remember things i want. it isn't new. just not sure what exactly i wanted to say earlier.
but this message is also enough.


feel free of course to say what you want..

 

[Chief Longwind Of The North]

We tend to grow out of the need to conform to peer pressure, at least many of us do. It becomes more important to become comfortable with who we are, than to try and be like everyone else
Though, in the K throgh 12 years, fitting in is paramount, even if it means behaving in ways that are counter productive to our education, and emotional growth. That's where strong examples, and guidance from parents, and teachers can help. I have always been amazed by how many people in schools are satisfied with just meeting the minimum requirements, rather than trying to excell. I've seen it in K through 12, university, and professional training. Many people don't push themselves to be the best that they can be. That to me is sad.

Seeeeya; Chief Longwind of the North

 

[Andy M.]

FOMO is nothing new in the USA. We used to call it, ”Keeping up with the Joneses”.

As the Chief said, you outgrow the need to measure yourself against others as you mature and become comfortable with yourself.

 

[JonasStax]

Keeping Up Appearances
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Keeping_Up_Appearances

No complaints in my part of Planet Earth. Mediterranean climate, clean beaches.

In Australia, a permanently employed person can walk into a bank, establish a line of credit, giving the impression of prosperity. Permanent workers receive four weeks annual leave plus leave loading (usually 17.5% of annual income).

The only Australian's crying poverty are gamblers, alcoholics and illicit drug users. Everyone else with sensible financial management can live a good lifestyle.

Expecting to walk into a place of employment, instant termination of employment and escorted out by security guards is illegal. Termination of employment must follow legal procedures. Instant termination of employment only if engaged in theft; use of illicit drugs in the workplace; criminal conduct, for example, assault; and fraudulent conduct. In those cases the police are called.

 

[Just Cooking]

Simply a personal thought on FOMO.

When your health goes sour, FOMO becomes BS.

Ross

 

[dragnlaw]

hear, hear, Ross!

and when life goes sour it certainly helps to watch Hyacinth bring mirth around for a bit.

 

[GotGarlic]

I first heard about FOMO several years ago when Facebook was becoming popular. It's not just about "keeping up with the Joneses" in terms of material goods. The idea is that people would see their friends and other people they know less well doing all kinds of fun things and some began to feel like they were missing out on life and that the people they knew were having a better life than they were.

My therapist said that usually what people post on Facebook is their Hallmark moments - vacations, parties and other outings - and not the more challenging parts of their lives, so the people following them get a skewed idea of what their daily lives are really like.

But for some people, FOMO has caused a level of depression.

 

[Just Cooking]

Well stated, GG.

My personal feeling is that, overall, social media has done more bad than good.

I'd hate to believe that my life successes or failures were based upon what others have written in a social platform.

Ross

 

[blissful]

Things not required in life:
Writing a facebook, twitter, instasomething.
Reading any of them.
Reading the media and believing everything you read.
Buying what everyone else buys.
Going where everyone else goes.


Envy and jealousy are at work in FOMO. Fomo is only a problem if you choose to let it.
Being grateful for what you have and where you go is the key.