Claire
Master Chef
When do you feel that for some reason or other you've done something right or wrong, and when do you look back and say, wow, I'm glad I did that; or maybe "boy did I mess up." What did you do right or wrong lately, and why?
I spoke up about a good friends boyfriend ( he was a cheating sleezebag) and she kicked me to the curb for it. I wonder if I'll realize down the road that this was the right thing to do. She stayed with him and I lost a dear friend of 12 years. Seems like I made the wrong choice right now doesn't it?
Ouch! If there is one thing I've learned about friendships, it is to never, ever warn a friend about the man in her life. .
If you know what you are doing is in opposition to your core values, why would you enforce someone else's rules that would destroy relationships you hold dear. Surely there are other forums where you would not have to make these compromises, and you may even make more friends.Hmmmm, right thing/wrong thing...yikes! I'd need a couple of pages. Seems like my entire life is this topic! Mostly I think for me its my admin duties here, I have a responsibility to make sure thing are as Andy wants them, and sometimes that means I offend or upset folks. It makes it hard to retain friends sometimes.
JoeV, when someone says "don't take it the wrong way" it generally means they expect you to do just that. And it does not go against my core values to enforce the rules around here, I wouldn't have accepted the position if it did. The issue is that people I thought were friends often cannot see past their own ideas to see that I am doing what I have been asked to do. And as to other forums, yep Joe, seen 'em and think they leave a lot to be desired. And as for friends, I'm not looking for new ones, if they come along YAY, if they don't I'm good with that. I don't need an online forum to make friends, I have lots of those in real life. Perhaps I was unclear before, when I said "retain friends". I like to chat and enjoy things here, I don't enjoy the constant barrage of complaints about the rules set down by the owner of the site. I think it is juvenile and petty. I also don't enjoy having my every post nitpicked.
It sounds like you are questioning my integrity with that last post. Is that your intent or am I misinterpreting you?
Claire, sorry to hijack.