Well mrgrumpy, I agree 100%, from someone who never participates in slamming other people or dissing them in any way, I must say that this board can seem like a cruel place. And sometimes it is. I am appalled sometime at the lack of moderation and oversight.
Perhaps you could take the time today to sit down at your little computer and find some nice little nambie pambie BBQ bulletin board that you can post your "peace on Earth, goodwill toward men" BBQ information to and where no ever disagrees with anyone and nary a foul word to be written. Sounds kind of tooty-pitooty to me, not that there's anything wrong with that, I just happen to butter my bread on the other side, if you catch my drift.
But if you're a reasonably well adjusted adult over the age of 19 or so and have what might pass as an education, you'll realize that 99.999999% of the things that are said here are, said in friendship, sarcasm, honest to God honesty, down right helpful, in the spirit of assisting another human being, and yes as one family member to another.
If your skin is that thin that you can't take sarcasm, criticism, jokes, insults, and the like well perhaps lurking would be best. If you can, jump on in and join the family we'd love to have you.
I was only kiddin' you in that 1st and 2nd paragraph.