I think that Wyigal has the answer. Over the fridge (which is quite warm) and over the stove storage should be for items you don't use too often, especially if you're short (Ok, I'm sure there is a PC word for that, not going there). Food items really don't belong over a heat source.
That said, the person who actually cooks most of the meals, that is to say, the most meals of the week, should get to decide where the various things (be it food or cutlery, pots&pans, dishes) belong. Not the person who gets to do show off meals once a month. There is nothing worse than going to reach for something in the kitchen you need, NOW, and finding it not there. Just because your spouse prefers it to be somewhere else.
I have a childhood friend I get to see every few years. She can walk into my kitchen (and she has in many kitchen across the continent and then some), and whenever she cooks, she can find exactly what she wants, exactly where it sould be. She's said, on more than one occaision, when I've been surprised (I'm talking she's visited my homes from coast to coast and then some) ... Oh, Claire, but that is where it is supposed to be! On the other hand, my husband will decide that a pot I use every month or two should be in front of a pot I use daily.